Sometimes The Smartest Thing A Woman Can Say Is 'I'm Done'

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Emotional drama is one of the biggest black holes of life as a woman. 

We can get so consumed by whatever BS is happening, that we completely lose sight of our goals and ourselves. 

Breakups, toxic friendships, fights with our moms, backstabbing co-workers, and all of the ugly above can derail everything good we have going on — but only if we let it.  

If you’re currently finding yourself in a situation that is literally sucking the life out of you, ask yourself why you’re still giving attention to it.

Is the reason something that’s important to your happiness? Is it something you have to accomplish or can’t live without?

The logical, unemotionally driven answer is probably no. 

Not too long ago I was staying in a situation simply because I was worried about what people would think if I just "gave up” and left.

Somehow my twisted, female brain took moving on as a sign of weakness and enduring all the negativity around me (even though it was literally making me sick) as a sign of strength. 

How royally messed up is that?  

​In reality — a place we sometimes forget we live in — the best, most wonderful thing I could do for myself was simply leave. And once I finally did, I realized how easy it was to just be happy. 

I was good. I was fine. I was back to me. Back to chasing my goals and having fun.

It was so easy I couldn’t believe I had waited so long to do it. 

When drama runs the show, your real life gets put on hold, and the only thing you can do to take back your happiness is to just say “I'm done.”

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I'm done with this situation.

I'm done with these people who are trying to make me feel bad.

I'm done not living my life the way I want to. 

One phrase, with endless possibilities. Try it, I promise you won't regret it. 

 

Emily Blackwood is a writer and editor focused on relationships and pop culture.