Love, Heartbreak

Happy Couples Fight Because They Give A Sh*t About Each Other

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In the beginning of a relationship, everything is pretty much perfect. 

You're so wrapped up in this new, shiny person you're with that fighting with them seems next to impossible. But eventually, after two people have been together for a long time and become more and more entangle in each other's lives, it happens. And it's okay. 

In fact, it's what's your supposed to be doing. 

Fighting is a type of communication, and though sometimes it can get really messy, it's a way you become closer to your significant other. You learn to tolerate and love each other in all your moods. It's kind of the key to a lasting relationship. 

So if you've been together for awhile and you're STILL not fighting, something is wrong. 


While I don't know the magic number as to when you should start arguing, I think you can tell something is off if you simply feel no passion. 

Couples fight because they love each other, they want nothing more than to be together and for the other person to want the same thing. They fight when they feel the relationship — especially how the other person feels — has changed and in jeopardy. 

So while it might seem logically crazy to fight because you're jealous of your boyfriend's blonde co-worker always texting them, when you're in a passionate relationship that you want to be in, it doesn't seem crazy at all. 


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So if you really don't give a shit about who your boyfriend is texting, it's probably because you don't want him to know who you're texting. 

Relationships are full of fights because that's how people get closer. If you're not fighting, you don't want to grow closer. And that's fine, but you should probably reevaluate whether or not you should even be with this person. 

Because everyone deserves someone who's willing to fight for them. 

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