Choose Me Or Lose Me, I Will Never Be A Second Choice

Don't settle.

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When you're in the very early stages of talking to someone, the risk for mixed signals is suuuper high. 

You could think you've met "the one," deleted your Tinder, called all your friends to brag, and Pinterest-plan your wedding only to find out that he was actually only interested in friends-with-benefits kinda situation. It happens. 

The relationship game is only won by those who are experts in clear communication.


Nobody can give you what you want if you're not asking for it. 

That being said, if you're seeing someone and you've let them know that the end game for you is a serious relationship, you better back those actions up by not settling for anything less. 



So if a guy is just tip-toeing around the idea of being with you and showing little effort of actually wanting to commit, then it's time to move on. 

The more time and chances you give someone — especially early on — the more likely they are to procrastinate and never ACTUALLY do anything.

I'm not a huge fan of ultimatums, but I think it should be pretty easy for two people who like each other to start a relationship. 

If you're all set and ready to hop on the monogamy train and he's been in the bathroom for like 40 effing minutes, it's a sign that something is off. 

Rather than dwell on the "what ifs" and "what I could have dones," move on to someone who won't make you wait around.



While the relationship you wanted with this person might have potentially been great, you can't force something that just isn't meant to be. 

So stop wasting your time chasing a dead end, and open yourself up for someone who wants the same things you do. 


I promise, they still exist. 

Emily Blackwood is a writer and editor focused on relationship and news.