Hey Single Moms! It's Time We Claim the Mother’s Day We DESERVE

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It’s time to celebrate YOU this Mother’s Day.

Do you feel slightly left out on Mother’s Day because you don’t have a man to appreciate your hard work as a mother? As a single mom, you might not have someone who truly sees and acknowledges your dedication — emotionally, physically, financially — to your child.

You may not have someone who, at the end of the day, says, “You did a really good job today. You’re a good mom. Our child is lucky to have you.”

And on Mother’s Day, the one day when women with children are praised for their commitment, you’re probably not. At least, you’re not in the way that you wish you were.

You aren’t awoken by breakfast in bed and kisses on both cheeks — one from your man and the other from your little love.

And it’s ok to be sad, feel a little neglected, and envious of mom/dad households...

…but that’s enough of that.

Right now, I want you to appreciate all that you have, all that you are, all that you give, all that you get, and all that you created.

In this moment, I want you to acknowledge your abundance. In this moment, I want you to acknowledge yourself. Because you can’t get to where you want to go if your head is looking back to the past, and you don’t appreciate what you have right now.

I’m not trying to sound preachy or overly spiritual. I am trying to encourage you to check yourself! Because if you were my client (or my friend), that’s exactly what I would be doing with you.

It’s time, right now, for you to be the model that you want your child to grow up to emulate. You are strong. You are resilient. You can, you do, and you will move forward.

I’m not talking about erecting your fortifying walls that effectively block your heart so that your can plow forward. Instead, I want you to check in with yourself, be aware of your needs, your wants, your areas of strength, and your areas of weakness, and move forward with confident vulnerability and integrity (where your needs/feelings match your words, and then also match your actions).

It’s time to get your sh*t together and show up as the amazing single mom that you are!

I want you to Celebrate yourself!

Sure, you want a man to take you out, make you dinner, bring you flowers, buy you a gift, and make you feel loved, special, seen, safe, sexy, and appreciated. Most women, regardless or their relationship status, want that!

But don’t romanticize what it’s like to be linked up. Remember your ex? Remember how he didn’t do the things that you needed or made you feel loved, special and like the priority?

If you want to be treated in a certain way or made to feel a certain way, it starts with you.

Be the example of your expectation. Treat yourself well. Be the priority (in addition to your little one of course). And when you start dating someone, he will see how great you treat you. He will see your worth and know that your needs are valid- because you do. Because if you don’t, if you put your needs last (or don’t even acknowledge them at all), if you don’t value yourself as a high-worth woman… why would he?

So this Mother’s Day, celebrate you the way you want to be celebrated.

You get to do and be and feel and have EXACTLY what you want. How amazing is that?!

You won’t disappointed by having any expectations that aren't met. You get to indulge in the exact way that you want.

Send yourself flowers, buy yourself a little something that will make you feel loved, make yourself a special dinner or go out for a beautiful evening with your close friend, indulge in a bubble bath, then cozy up in your favorite warms clothes and settle in bed for some delicious "me time"… whatever that means to you.

Can’t do all of that with your baby by your side? Hire a nanny, ask your parents or friends for help for a few hours. You would if you had a date, wouldn’t you? Well you do. You have a date with yourself.

Or, you can make it a date with your beautiful little one. Create a special day for the two of you, because this IS a special day for the two of you.

Now keep an eye out for my next article on how to date as a single mom, the do’s, don’ts, and how-to’s. I’m going to tell you what types of guys to look for and look out for, how to be confidently vulnerable, and on your dating purpose so that eventually you two can become you three, or four, or more…