If You Don't Know About Femdom, You're Missing A HUGE Part Of Sex

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Everybody knows about BDSM because of Fifty Shades of Grey, and it's no longer the shocking sexual lifestyle it once was. We see it in movies, television, books, commercials, and it's often referenced in anything that has to do with popular culture.

Fifty Shades of Grey and its sequels have focused on the male dominant, such as Christian Grey, but there's a whole other subset of BDSM and it's one led by a femdom.

Besides femdom, there are many names for the female dominant including Dominatrix, Mistress, Madame, Goddess, and Domina, but they're all women who dominate in a BDSM scene or relationship. They have many different personas — from the sexy woman dressed head to toe in leather, to the mommy figure.

Femdoms come in all shapes, sizes, ages, ethnicities, and sensibilities. There's probably a dominatrix for every kind of preference or fetish, and a session (time spent) with a femdom doesn't even have to include sex or orgasm. In fact, the sub or submissive may never reach climax.

It's not always about getting off; the relationship between a femdom and a submissive can be satisfying in other ways. Being with a femdom isn't only about pain and/or punishment — it's about release and satisfaction.

While some femdoms or dominatrixes do everything and anything, some may focus on a specialty. If you want someone to verbally berate you, you might choose to go to a dominatrix that specializes in that, such as a humiliatrix.

I once knew a woman who was hired by a man to tie him up in a hotel room, steal his credit cards and go shopping. Once she shopped until she was about to drop, she returned to the hotel room and told the guy about her purchases. That was it — no spanking, no inflicting of physical pain and no sex, but she was still his femdom.

It's important to note that femdoms aren't limited to male submissives; they are female dominants who dominate.

Femdoms may...

1. Humiliate the sub (or slave) verbally, or make them do things such as licking boots, dressing them up in some way, and taking them out in public.

2. Penetrate the sub with sex toys, strap-ons, or other mutually agreed upon objects.

3. Control the sub with bondage, blindfolds, and gags.

4. Spank, whip or strike the sub.

5. Practice water sports (and no, that's not swimming and boating).

6. Do any number of different role play scenarios such as prison matron and a prisoner, boss and worker, or mean teacher and student.

7. Engage in pony play or training where the sub role plays as a pony for cart ponies, riding ponies or show ponies.

8. Put a leash and collar on the sub (this can involve sub role playing as a dog).

9. Facesit (also called queening) with a sub.

10. Squash the sub (very large femdom needed for this) with their body.

11. Do forced feminization, aka compel the male sub to dress as a female. 

The femdom can do any of these things or none of them. What they will or won't do is entirely up to their discretion, as they are the ones with all the power and control. When someone is doing a session with a femdom, it may be very kinky or simply the release of power.

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