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Realize that you're the person who gave you everything you wanted.
By Laura Lifshitz — Last updated on Jul 04, 2023
It's rare for women to raise their hands and say, "Look at me! I did a good thing." This is a sad fact.
Not that anyone should go around with a big head, but we should really pat ourselves on the back more and be our own cheerleaders.
Giving ourselves a little "Nice job," or acknowledging when you have made a smart choice is crucial to developing self-love and staying positive. Here are 14 things you should give yourself more credit for accomplishing.
Here are 14 things you need to start giving yourself credit for:
1. You graduated from college
It doesn't matter if you're graduating from medical school or an extension program, as any "completion" of any program or class, is one thing you should be proud of. You saw it through to the end. Give yourself some credit.
2. You followed through with divorce
Not that you should be proud of your marital mistakes; you should work to correct those for the next relationship. But if you left a bad situation, be proud. That takes balls and chutzpah, my friend.
3. You stayed true to yourself
Don't want a kid, or want a kid? Travel frequently? Speak your mind? If you're a woman who owns who she is and makes no apologies for herself, then you need to give yourself a pat on the back.
4. You landed a great job opportunity
The first job is a huge milestone. And if you landed a big job, that's even better. Two thumbs up are allowed for these achievements.
5. You still recognize your beauty
We all feel a little ugly from time to time, but it's important to recognize your beauty. Whether it's that inner glow or a feature you like about yourself, own it.
6. You're managing your money like a boss
If you manage your credit and keep your debt low, you need to give yourself a round of applause. Managing your money well is a life skill that will serve you well no matter how much bank you pull in.
7. You quit a bad habit
Did you quit smoking? Cut out sugar? Stop biting your nails? That's huge. We are such habitual creatures that breaking a bad habit is a big marker of pride.
8. You became a parent
Have you become a mother recently? It's a rewarding but tough job. Give yourself a ton of credit each day, because otherwise, you might snap from fatigue and mommy guilt.
9. You ended a toxic relationship
Did you cut out a damaged partner, friend, or family member? You go, girl! Here are two gold stars.
10. You came out
Did you just come out of that closet? Good for you! Life is too short to pretend to be someone you aren't.
11. You're in recovery for an addiction
Are you in recovery? You need to credit yourself for making a big move to change your life. Amazing!
12. You made the ultimate commitment
Did you say "I do" or get engaged? That's a big life milestone. Kudos, kudos!
13. You moved out of state
Moving away from everything you know and love takes balls of steel and determination. Nice work!
14. You broke into a male-dominated field
Are you a woman breaking into a male-dominated field in the sciences, construction, sports, or any other male-dominated field? Hot damn! Good for you.
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Laura Lifshitz is a former MTV personality and Columbia University graduate currently writing about divorce, sex, women’s issues, fitness, parenting, and marriage. Her work has been featured on YourTango, New York Times, DivorceForce, Women’s Health, Working Mother, Pop Sugar, and more.