7 Signs You Finally Realize Your Worth And Refuse To Give People "Discounts"
You have self-worth and other people need to know.
Tatiana Maksimova via Canva | Andrea Lim via Canva | LumiNola via Canva | Jonathan Borba via Canva Self-esteem can be tricky. We all want to be empowered, confident, and strong women, but there are times when we undervalue our self-worth.
When you use the same rules in business and apply them to yourself, your own feelings of value and self-worth will grow.
Whether you have your own business or just want to make it in the world (with your dignity and self intact), placing a high value on yourself when dealing with others can help strengthen your self-esteem.
Sometimes we want to be liked so much that we give people emotional discounts.
Here are 7 signs you finally realize your worth and refuse to give people discounts:
1. You refuse to change just so people will like you
You are what you are, and that's more than good enough. You're a quality being, and those who get you will be rewarded by your presence in their lives. If someone doesn't understand or like you, that's their issue — not yours.
You're the complete package. No slashed prices just to make a sale.
2. You don't undervalue yourself
You're beautiful, brilliant, accomplished, have skills, and an amazing sense of humor, and you remember everybody's birthdays and special occasions.
You won't lose at tennis just so your boyfriend will feel better about his game, and you won't pretend you don't know something just so someone else will feel smarter. You always shine; no friends and family discounts are needed here.
3. You don't say sorry when you don't need to
Women have a tendency to over-apologize as if we need to apologize for our mere existence. You'll only apologize if you truly need to. You're not a jerk, but you don't say it every two seconds. Saying sorry too much is a deep discount that chips away at your self-esteem.
4. You refuse to do everything to fix a broken relationship
You know that it's not up to you to carry the whole relationship, nor is it on you to repair what's irrevocably damaged. There's no 50 percent discount for damages.
5. You say no and you mean it
No, you won't do something you don't really want to do. No, that's not how you want your eggs. No, you won't say yes just to avoid conflict. There's no buy one/get one half-off to standing your ground.
6. You have clear boundaries
You won't let people take advantage of you, even if you have a large heart. If you did, resentments would crop up and that's not good for business — and it's not good for how you feel about yourself. You won't bargain with anybody where your self-respect is concerned.
7. You refuse to have your feelings ignored
You listen to other's feelings and expect the same in return. You won't repress or suppress your emotions. The worst discount of all is when people discount your feelings as if you don't know what it is you're feeling or your feelings don't matter.
You wouldn't charge too little for your work, so it stands to reason that you shouldn't underestimate the value of your worth.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer and performer who has trained extensively in stand-up comedy, improv, and sketch comedy with The Groundlings, ACME, and Bang Improv Studio. Her bylines have been published on numerous digital platforms, including Self.com, Women’s Day, The Los Angeles Times, Huffington Post, MSN, Mama Mia, Yahoo, BlogHer, Hello Giggles, Business Insider, Salon, and Bustle.