Love, Self

5 Things That Don't Count As Cheating, So Settle The Hell Down

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Being in a committed relationship can be nerve-wracking, especially if you're someone with trust issues. 

You can never truly know if the other person is cheating, short of tracking their every movement like you're in the NSA. And at that point, any sane person would be running for the hills anyway. Rightfully so, you psychopath.

In my dating life, I've had girlfriends get crazy stressed out over super harmless things, all the time. And let me tell you, jealous worrying helps no one.

So, take a few of these pieces of advice to heart, and your heart will thank you. There are just some things not worth getting worked up about:

1. He doesn't text you back in 3.2 seconds.

You know what it means if he doesn't text you back right away? It means he's busy. It’s not healthy to automatically leap to the worst conclusion in a single bound.


2. He hangs out with female friends alone.

This one is a bit tough, because alone time with a person is one of the prerequisites for sex (or maybe not, if you're adventurous). But guess what? Two people of opposite gender are totally capable of hanging out together without winding up naked.

Badgering him about his lady friends without some kind of probable cause is unfair and likely to make him resentful.


3. He simply has female friends.

There’s a myth that a guy’s female friends are simply women he hasn’t slept with yet (but wants to).

Here’s an easy way to test that theory: Do you want to sleep with all your guy friends? Exactly.

We’re all just people here, and our friends come in all shapes, sizes and yes, even genders. 


4. He needs time away from you.

When you first start dating, there's always a whirlwind honeymoon period where you barely want to leave the bedroom, let alone spend time apart. Eventually, reality sets in and people sometimes just need their space.

If you always used to have a date night on Saturday and he wants to skip out this time around, it doesn't automatically mean he's finding a new date. People aren't robots, and you both need to adapt to each other as you change over time.


5. His sex drive has decreased.

There are a million possible reasons for not wanting to get naked with you at any given moment. For example, did you know men have a monthly hormonal cycle, just like you? Yet, women often take this as a sign he's getting it elsewhere.

I'm not asking you to ignore a dead bedroom, but you should TALK ABOUT IT before assuming the worst. It could easily be a solvable problem, which would lift the weight off your chest.