3 Things People Who Have Their Act Together Do Without Feeling The Need To Brag
People who have the life they want are often the quietest.
Ellie Hauser | Unsplash Does this sound like you? Over the years, you've jumped into a series of relationships, all of which ended badly. It's not that you're actively searching for the wrong guys, but for some reason, that's all you end up attracting.
Some days, you feel like there are just no good ones left. But on other days, when you keep seeing the common denominator in your bad relationship equation is you, you're left wondering: Is it me?
It's normal to question things when nine times out of ten, everyone you meet turns out to be a total dud. The truth is that we all go through rough patches.
And just because you've had your fair share of it, doesn't mean that you don't deserve happiness. It takes two to tango; chances are, the underlying issues in your previous relationships involved both of you.
The only way you can get yourself back on your feet is by eliminating the idea that you are the only one at fault. Regardless of the circumstances, everyone deserves to be happy.
With that in mind, we asked four relationship experts: author Charles Orlando, relationship counselor John Gray, life coach Barbara Schiffman, counselor Kelly Crossing, and hypnotherapist Laura Rubinstein to share how you can improve your outlook on love and get your act together to find the long-lasting relationship that you want.
Here are 3 things people who have their act together do without feeling the need to broadcast it:
1. Face their feelings head-on
Laura Rubenstein raises an excellent point as she says, "If you're aware that you feel undeserving, you can change that."
2. Stop living in the past
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Dwelling on things you can't change only forces you into a self-imposed funk. If we actively worked towards improving our future instead of focusing on our past, so many of our issues would disappear. Kelly P. Crossing said it best when she stated, "Who we've been in the past does not have to dictate who we are in the future."
3. Remember that every relationship is a learning experience
It doesn't matter how our relationships end. We're constantly shaped by the people we meet. Barbara Schiffman mentions that "Taking credit for what you've learned along the way makes you feel as if you are deserving. You've earned the right to have what you want now."
It makes sense. Acknowledging everything that your past relationships have taught you reinforces the idea that your relationship was not a failure, even though it failed. You can choose a different ending for your next story.
You just have to decide to stop repeating your negative patterns and learn from your past instead of being controlled by it. That's one lesson you can take on your next date for sure!
Charles J. Orlando is a relationship expert best known as the author of the acclaimed relationship book series, The Problem with Women… is Men.
Dr. John Gray is a leading relationship expert whose books, including "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus," have sold over 50 million copies in 50 languages in 150 countries. He helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships.
Barbara Schiffman is an author, speaker, book editor, screenwriting coach, Life&Soul Synergy mentor, Hypnotherapist, and Akashic Records Advanced Teacher.
Kelly P. Crossing is an experienced counselor and relationship expert who specializes in helping women build the lives and relationships they want by understanding their driving needs and how to meet them.
Laura Rubinstein is a speaker, author, certified Hypnotherapist, and Master Leadership Coach.
