Yes, You CAN Be Happy Again After A Brutal Breakup (Here's How!)

How to find the light at the end of the tunnel.

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If you're going through a divorce or a particularly brutal breakup, chances are you dealing with a lot of confusing emotions.


If you're feeling a combination of relieved-and-guilty, plus happy-yet-sad, don't worry — that doesn't mean you are making a mistake.

It means you are totally normal.

Even if getting a divorce is the best thing for you to do (and sometimes it is), you are still ending all of the hopes and dreams that went along with your marriage.

But is there a really a light at the end of the tunnel like everyone says there is? Can you really be happy after a divorce?

In the video above, Divorce coach duo Kimberly Mishkin and Liza Caldwell, of SAS — Support And Solutions For Women, discuss the fact that there really is a light at the end of the tunnel, and there's an easy way to get yourself there.


Because you can be happy again after a divorce.

But it takes a little effort, like everything else in life!

Let's say your car got a flat tire — you wouldn't just pull out a chair and wait for it to magically fix itself. It's the same with your divorce. Getting over a divorce takes time, but you don't just sit back and wait for things to get better.

For one thing, you need to be kind to yourself.

You need to recognize that all of these feelings are natural and there is no set timeline where you'll be happy again. 

Most people take about two years to heal from their divorce. You may feel better sooner, or it may take longer for you to be happy again after your divorce. But that's a good general guideline.


If you want to do something more concrete, make yourself a bulletin board.

Yes, it can be that simple. Fill it with a list of goals and dreams. Fill it with pictures that make you the happiest and quotes that inspire you.

Put this board somewhere you'll see it every day.

Now you'll have something concrete to remind you of all you have to work for, all you have to live for, and all you have yet to achieve.

Yes, you got a divorce. But you can still conquer the world. Watch the video above for more comfort and inspiration, and give these tips a shot!

If you would like more information or support in learning to be happy again after a divorce, reach out to Kim and Liza, they're here to help! SAS for Women™ is a comprehensive divorce information, education and support center. You can also sign up for our free weekly newsletter. You don't have to figure it out on your own, we are here to help.