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What Women Really Think … Of Sex Toys

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Well, well, well. We've finally made our way to the topic of sex toys for this most recent foray into "What Women Really Think…" Are you feeling confident enough to read the results of our crowdsourcing, gentlemen? Although finding a woman who is against sex toys is pretty rare, some men, however, are actually a little intimidated by the idea of bringing another little something something into the bedroom. Considering the orgasm-inducing power of some sex toys, it makes sense.

Female and male sex toys have been on the rise for years, and more and more people are using them with their partners. Lelo Global Sex Survey found that 72 percent of those who own sex toys use them with their partners. Of the women out there who own two or more sex toys, only 28 percent of them are single, in comparison to the 62 percent who are in committed relationships. Also, and you definitely want to pay attention to this fact, gentlemen, 78 percent of women can't orgasm without clitoral stimulation. This means that if you're not into bringing sex toys into the mix, then you better step up your game.

If you're in the category that's still "meh" in the sex toy department, then you may want to know that 76% of women want their partner to use a sex toy on them, and 89% of guys are stoked to do just that. Face it, guys; sex toys are the ticket to happiness – for everyone involved.

So what did the ladies have to say about this one?

There was, of course, the overly excited crowd.
"I want them ALL. (Dear Hypothetical Rich Boyfriend  please buy me a Sybian.) Fun for the whole class!" says Sarah, 34.

"Sex toys are awesome! They are great with a partner or alone," says Chandra, 32.

"Sex toys are great! I was 19 when I got my first one. Have enjoyed them alone, with guys and with girls," says Becky, 29.

They're pretty much a necessity.
"Sex toys are a total must, I can't believe any woman actually has a truly satisfying sex life without them. My current boyfriend is all for them; I actually don't think I've ever dated anyone who hasn't been, and I don't think the relationship would last long if they were. As the BF put it recently, I basically think of them as a labor-saving device. I think everyone should be able to have an orgasm as easily as guys do, but it's more complicated for the ladies, alas," say Sara, 41.

"I used to think my sex life had gotten better with age, but realistically, it was because I finally opened my mind to using my vibrator (and other toys) with my partners. Masturbation and sex without vibrators is really lackluster," says Emily, 26.

Then there are the guys who just aren't into them.
"I have one. It's like the most simple, boring hard plastic purple vibrator. I use it at least a few times a week, always alone, and I could live without it if I had to. My husband is kind of a prude when it comes to toys for some reason. I've suggested using them together and he never seems into it," says Callie, 30.

"My ex had this bizarre rivalry with my vibrator. He hated that it could me climax quicker and harder than he could. That might be why he’s my ex," says Alexis, 25.

And as for the sole woman who is against sex toys when it comes to getting it on?
"I like all-natural. Not plastic. I prefer other methods… like tongues," says Annie, 25.

What do you think about sex toys? Tell us in the comments below.

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