Help! I'm Too Fat To Date

If you’ve ever asked yourself, "Am I too fat to date?" — you’re not alone. It’s a question many people struggle with, especially after gaining weight or stepping away from dating for a while. There’s a common fear that being overweight could hurt your chances of finding love or being accepted by potential partners. 

You might even wonder if you should lose weight before you start dating again. But here’s the truth: You don’t need to wait until you lose weight to start dating or to find real love.

In this video, wellness coach, author, and YourTango Expert Patty Contenta explains why your weight should never be a barrier to dating or relationships. Patty emphasizes the importance of being your authentic self, not the version of you that you think the world wants to see, but the version that fully accepts and expresses who you are right now.

“Be confident in expressing yourself as you are,” Patty says. Confidence is incredibly attractive, and the right person will appreciate you for who you are — not for how much you weigh.

If you’ve been holding back from dating because you feel too fat, or because you think you need to look a certain way to deserve love, it’s time to let that belief go. Love is not reserved for thin people. Plus-size dating is real, valid, and full of possibility. When you show up as your full, unapologetic self, you give people the chance to truly connect with you.

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Patty Contenta is the founder of Sensuality Secrets, author of Desirable And Deserving e-book. Her work helps women who are struggling with their body image reconnect with their feminine confidence