'Single Girl Problems' Dishes On Love, Sex & Relationships

An exclusive interview with the single girl behind the SGP Twitter and blog phenomenon.

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YourTango recently caught up with the woman behind the online phenomenon Single Girl Problems. Currently, the thirty something gal is looking for Mr. Right (or Mr. Right now, at least), and is dedicated to expanding her brand through an online store that sells T-shirts and booty shorts with logos like "My cat is my best friend," and "No, really. I'm fine. Do you have any vodka?"

Here, the anonymous viral sensation sheds her nuggets of wisdom on love, sex, relationships ... and everything in-between. Be sure to catch her on Twitter @snglegrlprblms for more hilarious wisdom (sample tweet: "I'm too broke for a vacation so I think I'll get drunk until I don't know where I am. #singlegirlproblems").


1. What are you currently working on? Do you have any exciting news to share? 
At the moment, I'm trying to expand the world of my blog, Single Girl Problems, which was born from my Twitter page. While I've reached so many people via Twitter, gaining a more widespread audience through my blog would be even better. The goal is to at least have weekly posts on dating and relationships. The crazy thing about my Twitter page is that I have done everything without a computer! I've managed this account from my iPhone for the last 18 months! I think it's about time I invest. I have also started up an online store selling clothing and accessories inspired by my account at: http://singlegirlproblems.spreadshirt.com. I am SO excited about it. I hope to be able to distribute and produce on my own in the future, but for now, sites like Spreadshirt make it easy for a startup to get something going right away. I LOVE the designs I've come up with and can't wait to own them myself! It would be crazy one day to be out and about and see a girl in one of my shirts.


2. What's your favorite romantic movie and love song?
My favorite romantic movie is Casablanca, and my favorite love song is a toss-up: Ben Folds, The Luckiest or Van Morrison, Crazy Love.

3. Do you believe in love at first sight?
I believe in LUST at first sight, and lust can certainly lead to love! The relationship I had with the guy I dated throughout college started one drunken night with some great talks (and some great sex too). What I thought was going to be a one-night stand became a three-year relationship. There was definitely a special connection between us from the get-go. Was it love? Doubt it. Lust? Definitely. Did we continue to lust for and love each other? Absolutely.

4. What is a key requirement for someone you're dating or married to?
He can't be allergic to cats. You laugh, but really, he can't be! Otherwise he will be miserable when he hangs around me or comes over! And okay, okay, he definitely needs to make me laugh. He also needs to want to eventually be married and have kids. Those are two things I am not willing to compromise on. I look forward to being a wife and a mother one day more than anything.

5. What couple do you most admire? The pair can be from real life, history, fiction, film, etc.
My grandparents. They grew up together in another country and were friends, but never dated over there. As soon as she left for America, he knew he had to go there if he was ever going to win her over. He followed her two weeks later, found her, and they began dating almost immediately. They were married for over 50 years before he passed away, and the love they shared was incredible to witness. I can only hope to find that one day. It gives me hope that true love does exist. 


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6. If you could tell your younger self something you've since learned about love, sex and/or relationships, what would that be?
Don't go near [fill in the blank] because he is a total douchebag! Seriously though. I could say that about 75 percent of the men I attract. I am a magnet for awful guys who masquerade as amazing men in the beginning. This is probably why I have "single girl problems!" But really, when it comes to love, take the leap and throw away the fear of heartbreak. Trust your instincts and follow your heart. When it comes to sex, make sure you get what you want out of it, and DON'T FAKE IT! Speak up! A man would rather make you happy! I learned that way too late. Also, don't jump into relationships too fast. Enjoy dating; don't settle with anyone. When a relationship ends, determine what you learned from it and apply that in the future.

7. Fill in the blank: "I'm a sucker for _______"
Anyone who can sing and/or play a guitar. Oh man. I just am. Are there females that aren't?

8. What is the biggest compliment a partner has ever paid you?
"You're exactly what I wasn't looking for." He meant that in a good way. He wasn't looking for a relationship as he had recently ended a long-term one, but we clicked so well that he couldn't believe he found himself falling for me so fast, and just let himself do it. It made me melt.

9. Describe your ideal sexual encounter in three words.
Passionate. Rough. Fun.


10. Fill in the blank: "I feel sexiest when _______"
I'm in his button-down shirt and my undies.

11. What's the best relationship advice you've ever received?
"Men are like buses. There's always another one coming." My great-aunt told me that when I broke up with my college boyfriend. It really made me laugh because it is so true. Hopefully, one day I can just leave the bus stop altogether.

12. In your experience, when it comes to romantic relationships, what is the biggest difference between men and women?
I'd say that deep down we want the same things. Everyone wants to be loved and taken care of. The difference is that a woman is more likely to tell her man she needs some more romance or special attention, to the point where she may be called "needy" — whereas if a guy is feeling neglected he will retreat into his shell and not speak up about it for fear he will sound less manly, and then be unhappy. It's dumb. People should be able to say what they want or they'll never get it!


Can you relate? What are some of your own "single girl problems?"