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What To Expect When Your Husband Gets Viagra

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Oh, my Gosh! He's come home from the doctor with a prescription for Viagra! What does it mean? Is he going outside our relationship for sex? Doesn't he want me anymore? These are the questions that go through most women's heads when the little blue pill shows up. There's really no need to worry. Use the following tips to make the best use of the medication. ThirdAge: Is Male Menopause For Real?

1. If he's gotten Viagra, he's feeling insecure and deprived about sex. If your marital sex life is dying or dead, this is your wake-up call. Talk about sex, work on the relationship, or get counseling. He's forcing the issue one way or the other.

2. If your sex life is good, and he doesn't have a medical condition that prevents erections, then it's about aging. He's feeling old and hoping Viagra will make him young again. Let him know he's still your Prince Charming, he needs your reassurance. ThirdAge: Is Your College-Graduate Child Now Living At Home?

3. If he becomes too demanding, have a frank talk. Both of you need a reasonable amount of sex for your emotional health, and to keep your relationship intimate and connected. But, if he's gone beyond that, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Ask him what's going on with him. You both need to talk with each other. ThirdAge: Census: Divorces Decline But Seven-Year-Itch Persists

4. Four-hour erections are a fantasy. Don't let the advertising hype scare you. Sex will still be normal. He'll just have more confidence. If you have concerns about his health, (I was worried that Viagra would create a stroke) Talk to your Doctor. Go with your husband to an appointment, and ask all your questions. Talk to the doctor about dosage. Most men do better on less than a full dose, and the pills can be cut.

5. Count your blessings. If you have a man who's still interested in sex, and therefore in life, you're blessed. Don't oppose him, join him. You're the one he wants, don't push him away. Sex may not be what it was in your twenties, but there's still a lot to enjoy. View the erection pills as a toy, learn to play with them. Have as much fun as you can while you can. The pills will help.

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D , aka "Dr. Romance" is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California, with over 30 years of experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages.

Originally published on ThirdAge.com: Expert Advice On Dealing With Viagra

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