4 Tips For Women Who Want To Make The First Move

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With the kind of dating history Kim Kardashian has, one would never expect her to be shy when it comes to men, but this isn’t what we've seen on the E! series Kourtney & Kim Take New York. Yes, the Kardashian sisters are back and they’re in New York City to open and promote their Dash boutique. Kim, fresh out of a relationship with football player Miles Austin, is single for the show and ready to mingle. But, like many of us, she believes in the traditional idea that the guy is supposed to ask the girl out. And so she waits.

While we understand Kim's desire to be pursued (I mean, who doesn't want that, to some degree?), she doesn't necessarily have to be so passive about it. Modern dating rules make it OK for a woman to make the first move and we're quite glad that's the case. To boot, men love it when we ask them out, so here are four ways to help you do just that. Why Women Should Make The First Move

1. Be bold. Oftentimes a woman will convince herself that being the first to approach a guy looks desperate. But it’s the exact opposite. It takes a lot of courage to be the one to break the ice—for guys and gals—so this bold first move will not go unnoticed. Simply walk over and strike up a conversation. If you want to be a little more stealthy, buy him a beer. This works well if the guy who catches your eye is also shy because, as he seeks out a "thank you," he'll know you're interested.

2. Be confident. Guys don’t only enjoy when you take control in the bedroom, but in your dating life as well. And the sexiest thing a woman can wear is her confidence, so he'll love it if you have the guts to head over and chat him up first. Why? Because it’s refreshing. Men love a challenge when it comes to dating, but they also love a woman who isn't scared to go after what she wants. 5 Things That (Unexpectedly) Turn Men Off

3. Flirt! You must be thinking well, duh! But you would be surprised at how many women underestimate the power of flirting. Plus, men like to flirt just as much as we do—not to mention they love the attention. The trick is not too be too aggressive but playful and sweet. Lightly touch his arm during conversation. Smile. Ask him about himself. Contribute to the conversation but also listen. Flirting can make things a lot more comfortable and fun. 

4. Don't beat around the bush. Simply put, be direct. No matter how obvious we think a gesture or hint is, men just don't get subtlety and nuance the way women do. When communicating with men, it's OK (and actually productive) to be more direct than you would be with your ladyfriends. And telling him what you do and don't want helps a man feel less pressure to make all the decisions. 

Do you have any other tips for making the first move? Share them with us in the comments!