By ashok — Written on May 17, 2010
It seems that most articles relating to finding a good long term match address only the woman’s point of view. Why are men excluded? It’s not as if we do not have as much to lose if end up with the wrong person.
Considering the best match for the long term certainly may include physical attraction but do you seriously think a pretty face is all it takes? Who has not fallen head over heels with a gorgeous girl only to find that she has little to offer in any other category.
The truth is you probably ended up breaking up with her. Maybe you have had a series of relationships that went nowhere. Now that you are starting to think about the future, finding the right woman is a huge part of that. Hopefully you know enough by now to steer clear of finding your best match at your local bar.
Before a man commits himself to a long term match there are some issues he must consider. There are common issues that come up with every long term relationship.
- Trust: this one is a biggie, make no mistake. If you have any doubts about trusting a woman it is best to think twice before making a commitment.
- Communication: being able to voice your concerns before and during the relationship takes courage. In the long run, being able to communicate will determine the stability of your relationship.
- Conflict management: Every relationship, no matter how good will have conflict. This is not the time to bury your head in the sand and try to pretend it will not happen to you. Plan together how you will approach conflicting opinions.
- Physical intimacy: A long term match means you are mature enough, hopefully, to commit to one woman. Being able to talk about your sexual needs and desires heightens the depth of intimacy in relationships.
If you are not looking for a fling anymore, these issues do matter. In fact, you will also have to work through other issues once you have found your ideal woman.
How do you find the right woman? The bar scene is getting old and by now you know that physical attraction is just one part of the equation. Maybe it is time you looked in a different direction.
You could go with a dating site. The principle of a dating site is that you may enter your preferences in a mate and let someone else do the looking for you.
Many dating sites allow you to search through potential matches before making contact. It also gives a guy access to a woman’s values allowing you to do your homework before meeting her.
These matches are often more successful and allow a couple to grow into deep and abiding love. Once you have established that you are ready for a long term match and have a few women in mind, it is time to consider issues outside your relationship that will contribute to its success.
How will you handle her family and what will you expect from hers? If you are dating a woman with an eye toward the future it is important to consider how well you understand each others family values.
Let’s say that your list of characteristics in a woman has yielded you several options, including a woman who does not come from your cultural background. For example, you find that your perfect match happens to be from an Indian background.
If this is true you would do well to research her culture as it will give you insight into the expectations of her family toward a man seeking a long term match. You can find dating advice and tips in this case at the forum, www.IndianDatingToday.com .
Blending family traditions will be essential for the success of your long term match. The prepared man will have thought about this in advance.
Things to consider regarding family issues
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- What values does each family hold?
- · Do the families share cultural backgrounds?
- · How important is it to each family that you provide them with grandchildren?
- · How will you celebrate/share holidays?
These are just a few things for the mature man to consider. If you were out for casual dating it would not matter but you know you are ready for a long term match.
What is important here guys is that choosing a woman for a long term match means you are thinking beyond today and into the future. Being prepared for a long term match means that you have considered, not only the issues that may arise between the two of you, but also with each others family.
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