Community: Is He More Than Just A Friend?

Community: Is He More Than Just A Friend?
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This is something that I've learned to observe in order to tell the difference between a toad and a potential prince. When I began to develop feelings for my best guy friend, these are the things I noticed in his behavior and body language:

He would mimic my actions. No seriously, he would do the same thing I'd be doing like let's say leaning against my chair while drinking my soda, few seconds later he'd subtly do the same. I'd walk faster, and he would pick up his pace. He'd do things of that sort that would show me that he was totally paying attention and considerate of my every single movement and thoughts.

He would apologize even when he didn't do anything wrong. Whenever he'd see me make my upset facials, he'd automatically apologize as if his life depended on it. Okay maybe I exaggerated a little, but he would apologize and ask me if he was forgiven. Let's say he accidentally stepped on my toe; the guy would automatically turn to me, hold my arm, give me this sorry look, and apologize. This definitely showed me he was really caring about being on good terms with me at all times.

We would always end up alone. So let's say we'd go out with a group of friends. At the end of the day, somehow, he and I would always end up alone drinking at some place, or at a park.

Conversation was active, and silences could be comfortable as well. We could spend hours talking about anything, and I mean anything. Talk about grass, the weather, dogs, my fear of roaches, cake, our dreams, the future, memories, but we could also feel so comfortable sharing a moment of silence.

He'd playfully push me or put his hand on my shoulder. He'd pretty much do all of the silly things just to get close to me or touch me. This signaled to me just how into me he was by not being able to take his hands off me.

He'd mention my name out of the blue. I was friends with his friends, and they would tell me that he'd always say my name out of the blue whenever they'd hang out. This proved to me that if he could have a smirk whenever he'd hear my name, and that if he cannot shut up about me, it's for a pretty good reason.

He gave me all the positive body language. This means no slouching, crossing of the arms, or hands in pocket kind of thing. He'd have a good posture, open legs, and when I'd talk he'd have his head tilted, and nodding every now and then to show me he was listening.

He would constantly be touching his hair, arms, and shirt. He would try and fix his hair. He didn't think I'd notice, but I did. He would try to make himself appear bigger, and he'd be touching his muscular arms at me. He would straighten his shirt, or wipe off any little thing he'd see in his shirt. From what I know, this just meant he was trying to look his best to the person he's interested in.

He'd say yes to things I'd ask him to do. Not angrily saying yes, but happily. One time, I asked him to come with me to go walk another guy home. I thought i would have to beg, and trust me I was getting ready to do so, but in an instant he said yes while smiling at the same time.

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He would pay attention to me. He would see me, and say hi. He would go out of his way to go look for me, and was even willing to take some of his time to even help me do the laundry.

So these things happened between him and I. Of course, at the end, it all comes down to that moment that you first kiss. And when you kiss, you just know if he's the guy for you, and if there's a chance this is something deep. I can't define it, but you'll know once it happens to you. I do put forward that crossing the line to become more than friends can damage the friendship. You have to know that my best guy friend and I don't speak anymore, although we do still hold strong feelings for each other. It may not always work out, but it makes memories. :)