Oprah's Relationship Advice

YourTango's take on Oprah's relationship advice.

Oprah Relationship Advice

Because Oprah is really just Jesus in disguise, when asked a question, she will certainly have the right answer. Her website recently featured an article on different relationship dilemmas and the answers to solving them.

Question # 1. I'm married and exhausted. Sex or sleep?
Oprah's Take: "Both. If you can time things to coincide with the time of day when you're at peak energy, your sex life will be significantly more satisfying."


YourTango's Take: We understand what O is saying here, but we also get that you may be feeling most energetic in the middle of the afternoon which is when you are both at work. If you get home and you feel paralyzed from exhaustion, hit the hay. Just remember to get a large coffee after work the next day so that you're ready to get rowdy when you get home.

Question # 2. My clock is ticking. Settle for the guy I care about, or hold out for The One, who may never show up?
Oprah's Take: "Do. Not. Settle. Marrying Mr. Almost The One is, on the other hand, perfectly admissible."

YourTango's Take: Right on, Ms. Winfrey. We agree. Settling for a guy is a big no-no, but holding out for the fantasy may mean you'll be holding out forever. It could also mean that you'll miss a whole bunch of guys who are almost perfect.


Question # 3. I've met a great guy. He never calls. Should I call him?
Oprah's Take: "It's 2008. You can call. Let him initiate the plans."

YourTango's Take: This is a toughie. We want to agree with the boss lady, but we have a feeling that if the guy isn't calling, he's not really interested. There is always texting, which guys love to use because it's less confrontational. If he throws you a text to see what you're up to, then that means he's thinking about you. Instead of calling, which these days isn't necessary, spit him a text to see what he's doing. It's more casual and if he doesn't eventually write back, then you'll know that he's probably not interested.

Question # 4. He's married, but he says he's not happy and it's ending. I should stay away, right?
Oprah's Take: "Run as though you're fleeing a burning house. Which, in fact, you are."

YourTango's Take: Couldn't have said it better ourselves.


Question # 5. When, if ever, is it a good idea to try again, with a guy whose heart you've already broken?
Oprah's Take: "About as often as pigs fly. The case where it might work: when the failure was unrelated to your attraction or personalities but caused by outside circumstances."

YourTango's Take: The trust issue will always be there. If you cheated on him, lied to him, stole from him (okay, maybe that's a little far-fetched), or did anything to make him lose your trust, it's going to be very hard to gain it back.

Question # 6. I love my partner, but the sex is underwhelming. Stay the course or go?
Oprah's Take: "Neither. Instead you're going to do the hardest thing you've ever done. Think about the things that turn you on in the deepest ways, the things that make you feel most loved and cared for. When the two of you are unafraid to be naughty and vulnerable together, the experience can be amazing."


YourTango's Take: Try everything and try your hardest. Just because it's hard doesn't mean you should quit. Even though we sound like a self-help book, it's true. Harpo's method is a great one. There's also therapy and different sexual positions/acts that you can try to spice things up. Being honest with your partner is the key, though. If he doesn't know how you feel, things will never improve.