When It Comes To Long-Term Love, Do Looks Matter?

When It Comes To Long-Term Love, Do Looks Matter?

Today on Shine a user posted an interesting problem. She has long blond hair that she loves and is proud of, however her boyfriend has told her he prefers brunettes. This stresses her out because she and her sweetie are getting serious and talking marriage, and she's concerned. "If I am going to spend the rest of my life with one man in the whole world, I want that one man to be the most attracted to the features that I have," she writes.

When she brought it up with her man he said that her hair color isn't important, but she's still stuck on the issue: "Why spend my life with a guy who is more attracted to a feature that I don't have? It really makes me feel bad when I think about it."

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She asked the Shine community to weigh in. Below are some of their answers.

The clichéd but true response: If he's really the kind of guy worth being with, then he'll love you for who you are on the inside, not what you look like on the outside.

The immature response: y do u think that because you have blong hair your so much better then brunnettes? if you dont like it get another boyfriend or dye yhour hair.

The practical response: I dont suggest you dye your hair yourself from blonde to brunette cause thats a drastic step and you may end up kind of streaky doing it yourself the first time.

The mature response: When you say you've talked about marriage, what exactly was discussed? Children? Finances? Religion? In-laws? These are things to be concerned about. Hair color? If this is what has you worried, then you most certainly are not ready to marry anyone.

Dear reader, what's your response? Is his hair color preference something to be worried about? And how important are looks to long-term love?