You may be nervous at the thought of learning how to make love to a man, but you shouldn't be. In this guide, I'm going to show you exactly how to do it in a way that is super easy and takes all the pressure off you. More importantly, you will learn how to make love to your man so that it's fun and very, very pleasureable.
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1. Make Sure You're Comfortable
By far the most important thing that you need to take care of before you start making love to your man is making sure that you are totally comfortable with what's about to go down. If you have never made love or had sex before, then you will understandably be nervous and hopefully a little excited.
However, if you aren't excited about making love or if you even have the smallest, niggling doubt, then hold off on making love to your man completely. You should never, ever feel pressured into sex. While you may hope that your man can just "read the signs" you need to also verbally express to your man how you feel.
So before you attempt to make love to a man, make sure that you've found one that actually cares about you and respects you. I know this part is not exactly the most exciting, but the other important aspect of being comfortable is being safe. Whatever you do, do not take any risks whatsoever. So for most people, this also means making sure that your man wears a condom.
2. The Difference Between Jack Hammering And Making Love
There is an absolutely massive difference between learning how to make love to a man and learning how to have sex. Making love is about getting closer to your man and connecting with him, both physically and mentally. Just having sex with a guy is completely different. Having sex is more about lust and just getting off.
When you are making love with someone, you can go fast or slow, but you will always be paying attention to them. In many ways making love to a guy is a way to show him just how much you care about him. While it's obviously a bonus if you get off, you are going to be just as focused with making sure that he gets off too.
So if you really want to learn how to make love to a guy and connect with him, don't think so much about "jack hammering" each other. Think more along the lines of slow, passionate grinding, caressing and embracing. But making love is not just about intercourse. There are a lot of other "loving" things that you can do to your man like massaging him, kissing him and even giving him a passionate blow job.
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3. Full Contact Is Best
Like I just said, learning how to make love to your man is about connecting with him. Ideally you want to connect with him on as many levels as possible—emotionally, physically and even spiritually. The best, simplest way to connect with him in all these ways is to make as much body contact with him as possible.
This is why positions like missionary, the coital alignment technique and spooning are perfect as both of your bodies are in almost full contact with each other.
But just lying on top of each other or beside each other is merely the tip of the iceberg when making love.
- You hold your man's hands and interlock fingers.
- You can both physically embrace by putting your arms around each other and hugging each other.
4. Kissing Intensifies Everything
Another very important technique to use when figuring out how to make love to someone your care about is kissing. I'm not talking about regular kissing techniques like a peck on the cheek, or using your tongue like a washing machine! I'm talking about kissing your man with the passion that befits making love.
So kiss your man with both intensity and tenderness. Slowly and gently suck on his lips with yours. Hold his head with your hands while you kiss him. Grab his hair. Bury your head in his neck as you kiss him. Kiss him in a way that shows him how you truly care about him.
5. It's Good To Tell Him How You Feel
Disclaimer: This last tip is great if you have been dating each other for quite a while and both feel really strongly about each other. But if you have just started dating, then avoid using doing this.
While making love to your man, it can massively intensify things if you tell each other how you feel about each other. Letting him know how much you care about him and him doing the same to you is something that will really help you to connect more deeply.
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