Gay Sex Tips For Gay AND Heterosexual Couples? Believe It!

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Gay Sex Tips For Gay AND Heterosexual Couples? Believe It!
Looking to have fun in the bedroom, no matter what your sexual orientation?

Sex is just sex until you've learned the secrets gay men use to drive each other to orgasm.

Whether you're in a committed relationship and are looking to spice up your routine, or are looking to improve your single sex life, there's always room for improvement in the bedroom. If you're grossed out by the thought of two men having sex, then this article probably isn't for you. But even heterosexual couples can pick up some sweet between the sheets tips here. What would you try if you weren't held back by shyness or insecurity? Ready for the goods?

Okay... drum roll. Wait, one more caveat! I'm asking you to keep an open mind and truly consider what I'm about to share with you as options for enhancing sexual pleasure between you and your partner. Without further adieu:

5 Gay Sex Tips Heterosexuals Want To Try But Won't!

1. Rimming.
Guys if you've gone down on your ladies, you know how great oral sex is. And, for you ladies, if you're a fan of giving blow jobs, you know how much your partner loves them. So what's stopping you from taking it to the next level? Granted, a clean anus is most desirable when you're the one who will be rimming your partner. Once at your destination (the butt!) gently grasp the butt checks in hand and get acquainted. Go for gentle sweeps that becomes more and more aggressive with slight insertions every so often. I'm sure some of you are gagging and saying "No way, no how." Your loss!

2. Tea bagging.
This sex act is titled for its likeness to dipping a teabag into a mug of hot water; the man's testicles act as the teabag and their partner's mouth, the mug. Some guys claim they're "only into tea bagging." Kind of crazy to think that this act, and this act alone can bring someone to orgasm, but it is an art. Sure, at some point, ladies, you may have given your guy a blow job and he might have requested you move further south. Now's your chance. The art is in the gentle caress with your tongue. Be communicative about firmness, tension and pressure — communication is key!

3. Nipples, nipples, nipples, nipples.
Two people, four nipples, four times the pleasure. If you're a heterosexual guy, then you probably just dive in and not use much nuance. Fine, keep acting like a teenage boy playing with a woman's breasts for the first time and making it "all about you". But if you're ready to move into a more mature state, pay attention! It goes for you ladies, too. If your man has never been a big fan of his nipples being touched, he's seriously missing out. Many gay men find nipple play just as powerful as blowjobs and anal penetration. Used effectively, hot breath, light licks, gentle to aggressive bites, pinching and twisting on the nipples lead to very good things.

4. Back to the butt.
Anal penetration, tongue or otherwise, contrary to popular belief, isn't all that gay men live for in their sexual experiences. In fact, there's a whole spectrum of tastes when it comes to gay sex. However, the butt is a popular area of pleasure and it doesn't have to be penetrated. What about an anal massage? First, lube is a necessity when approaching the back door. Second, the approach and angle are also important, depending on what turns your partner on. A position that's highly effective is facing one another in a style similar to the missionary position. Difference being, you, the one who's going to be stimulating your partner, will kneel between your partner's legs and either gently push their legs back on their chest, or bring their legs up over your shoulders, so that you have direct access. This stimulation, for many people, male or female, is all it takes to bring them to the point of no return.

5. Edging.
Plain and simple, getting to the edge of the orgasmic cliff and not stepping off is edging. Again, many gay men list this activity in their sexual interests on their various profiles online or on apps. It's not always about the climax. Quite honestly, it can be just as sensual and goose bump making, to not orgasm. Some might find this a form of sexual torture, yet it's more about sexual enhancement. Orgasm control, a.k.a edging, is a powerful personal experience and when shared between two people often leads to a much more intimate, intense, sexual experience. Just one more gay sex practice that might do you some good to have a go at.

Of course, I could go into other gay sex practices, but you can find out all you need to know by conducting a Google search. However, here's one last tip to keep in mind: Gay sex is really whatever works for the two people — decidedly not the stereotypical idea that is often projected. Gay sex is intimacy, touching, kissing, seductive exploration, and being present, fully present, with your partner. And that's what's really hot.

Rick Clemons is a life changer, motivator, guide, mentor, and inspiring life coach for gay men who are ready to be the man they want to be, not the man they think their supposed to be. He's on a mission; guiding gay men to find their own voice, love deeply, work passionately, and live powerfully without regrets.

Rick's a Certified Professional Coach (CPC) who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, Huffington Post, YourTango.com and is a highly sought after radio show guest, blogger, author, and Sex Coach U Faculty Member. He resides in Riverside, California with his partner of 12 years (whoa dude), two teenage daughters (whoa again dude), cats Herman and Lilly (sorry no dogs), and a 200+ bottle wine collection, minus what he drank while writing this article.

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Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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