15 Signs You're Meant To Be
How do you know if he's the one? Here are fifteen signs.
Even when you're crazy about someone, it can often be hard to know if he or she is "right" for you. How do you know you won't feel differently in a year? Ten years? A lifetime? Deciding if you can commit to someone is a deeply personal determination, and everyone has different criteria. As in any verdict, you have to start by assessing the evidence. With that in mind, YourTango has come up with 15 signs that you're dating a soul mate. You don't have to check off all of these points to be sure about someone—but if you can say yes to several, you've found someone very special.
1. You tell him things you don't tell anyone else. We don't mean blurting something out after you've had too much merlot, but the desire to tell him intimate details about your life means you trust him—a major component of successful long-term love.
2. You let her see you in moments of weakness. It's easy to be happy with someone when you're feeling good about life. But what about when you're not doing so well? Do you want to see her when you've been denied a raise, or your cat died or you had a plain old bad day? She should be a comfort during tough times, not a burden. 6 Ways To Be Extra-Supportive
3. You respect him. You don't want to change the essence of who he is. There may be stuff that irritates you in everyday life—he insists on wearing his favorites, holey T-shirt, he eats sugar cereal for dinner, he still watches Saturday morning cartoons—but you like him, plain and simple.
4. You want him to meet your parents. You feel proud of him and you want to show him off—as opposed to feeling like you have to make excuses for him.
5. You can imagine a future together. You don't have to practice writing your first name with his last name, but do you periodically let your mind wander to picture a life together? Is it amazing?
6. You're not afraid to disagree with him. You know that even if you fight, he'll listen to you and won't brush you off. He takes you seriously, even when he thinks you're wrong. 9 Things To Say During A Fight
7. You want to work out your major differences. If you do have crucial differences that will impact your future together—different opinions about religion, money or something else—you want to work them out with him, and you believe you can come to a conclusion that will satisfy both of you.
8. You laugh together. Laughter is one of life's simplest pleasures—you should definitely be able to crack each other up.
9. You're incredibly, utterly, surprisingly attracted to her. Physical chemistry is an undeniably important ingredient in a healthy relationship. And if she's not a classic beauty or your usual "type"? Even more reason to think she's the one.
10. It's OK to be quiet around her. You don't feel like you have to fill the space between you with chatter or other interaction. Instead, you feel an easy comfort.
Discussion
I just got out of a relationship where I read all of those reasons and only some of them were true, but not 100% true. Hence... why I'm glad to be done. He was a great guy to be with but definitely not my "meant to be".
I just started hanging out with someone a few weeks back and I can literally say that some of these already do apply. So far so good! I'm taking it slow just cos of the last relationship I was in (we were together for ovre a year)... and he understands that. But I'm excited to be able to say that 100% of these can be related to this guy. I already feel super comfortable around him, can say whatever and he'll actually listen and feeling like myself. So we'll see.
Yay! I can absolutely relate to all points on this list. I think it's so complex and rare to have a connection as wonderful and deep as what this list entails and that's what makes it able to last. I was single for 4 years, really waiting out for the right person, the person I could build a lasting future with and when I met my honey, I knew within a month or two that he was the One. It's worth waiting for and I'm so head over heels! I wish every girl and woman will have this in their life one day, it's so fulfilling :)
i am so delighted, my guy and have like almost everything in the list, except i dont think i can show him to my parents yet.............religious differences. but we are taking care of that, they`ll hav to accept him
I hear you. Also, I think that #6 comes with some caveats. Like if your family is a healthy supportive family then #6 holds true. In my case, I didn't want him to meet my family right away, not because I was embarrassed by him, but I was afraid of what they would do/say to him.
I've been with my guy for almost a year now. We have most of this list already, and the rest I think can be easily achieved. We haven't had the big talk about the future yet but I'm pretty sure we will soon.
I have been w/ my man for 6 interesting years .... We have all 15 .
Absolutely. My bf and I have been together for three years. We are still in love, we have had some differences to work out, but in the end we are stronger than ever. I don't expect it to be an easy relationship, but in the end I know he will be there for me, and I will be there for him. That alone makes me feel safe. No matter how hard things get, we are silly together, we have incredible chemistry, and we are better people when we are together. I could not ask for more.
