Woman Asks Neighbor To Dress Differently While She Cleans So She Won't Draw Her Husband's Attention
Her request was bizarre and highlighted just how inappropriate her husband's behavior is.
pikselstock | Shutterstock Everyone has the right to dress the way they want to, especially when they’re in their own house. One woman tried to take that right away from her neighbor because she felt like her husband was spending too much time watching her.
If you need a moment to pick your jaw up off the floor, you're not alone. This woman actually went to her neighbor's house and asked her to dress more modestly while cleaning because apparently her husband is a creepy peeping tom, and everyone else is to blame except him.
A woman shared the story of how she was asked to cover up while cleaning inside her own house.
In a post to Reddit, the woman asked if she was wrong for “telling [her] neighbor she should check her husband and not me.” She explained, “I’m deep cleaning my house when my neighbor shows up at my doorstep. She introduces herself, which is fine since she’s new to the neighborhood.”
What could have been a perfectly normal and nice interaction quickly turned sour when the neighbor made a strange request. “But then she drops a bombshell: she says I make her feel uncomfortable,” she said. “I’m taken aback since we’ve never spoken before and I’ve lived here for 13 years with no issues.”
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The reason this woman felt uncomfortable about her neighbor was pretty alarming. “When I ask what I’m doing to make her uncomfortable, she says it’s the way I dress while cleaning, and her husband has been watching me from their window,” she shared. “I look down at my outfit — a sports bra and shorts — and ask if that’s what she’s referring to. She confirms it.”
Naturally, the woman cleaning was now the one who felt uncomfortable. “I’m confused and tell her maybe she should be concerned about her husband’s behavior, and that I’m not bothering anyone in my own home,” she said. “I suggest she should ‘check her husband’ because that’s weird behavior. She gets mad and wants to cause a scene.”
“Does anyone else find this situation weird?” she questioned. “I should add that I do have curtains blocking most of my windows, but I like a small gap for natural light, which I think is how her husband has been seeing me.”
Commenters were rightfully indignant for this poor woman who was called out for what she was wearing in her own home.
Other Reddit users couldn’t believe what happened. One person suggested that if the issue arose again, she said, “Thank you for letting me know your husband is a peeping Tom pervert. [It] seems like the neighborhood is going downhill with him moving in!”
“It would be one thing if you were doing naked cartwheels on your front lawn, but having curtains covering and wearing whatever you like in your own home is perfectly normal,” someone else said.
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The woman also offered some additional information in the comments, including the significant age difference between the new couple and herself. “They’ve been here almost three months and I had no idea,” she said. “She has no reason to be jealous. I’m 34. They look to be about in their 60s. And [I] have NEVER even [spoken] to them. I am making a police report about the situation though.”
In addition to the police report, she was getting some help from her brother. “My brother is coming today to adjust some of my cameras,” she shared. “I try to be a good neighbor and respect privacy and not point them at anything that I don’t own. But I don’t have a choice [at this point].”
The woman is perfectly within her rights to choose what she wears in her own house.
As Michigan State University pointed out, there are local rules and laws regarding what you can do on and with your own property. And, of course, you can’t do anything illegal, even if it’s in your own house. However, none of this applies to what you wear.
That’s your own business, and a choice this woman has the right to make for herself without worrying about her neighbors. Beyond that, however, is the very sad reality that this neighbor feels like she needs to vilify another woman because of her husband's bad behavior. Sure, her accusatory confrontation with this innocent woman just trying to clean her house was ridiculous, but ultimately, the reason she did it is because her relationship is and likely has been bad for a long time.
She's grasping at straws because the alternative is facing the fact that she has put up with her husband's bad behavior for far too long, and that realization might be too much for her to handle.
Mary-Faith Martinez is a writer with a bachelor’s degree in English and Journalism who covers news, psychology, lifestyle, and human interest topics.
