10 Truly Effective Post-Breakup Tips To Get Over Your Ex For Good
Get that man out of your head, and your heart.
filadendron | Canva You thought you and your ex would have a beautiful, everlasting romance until he announced that he wasn't feeling it anymore. You're left shell-shocked, in a state of confusion and despair, and filled with anger and remorse, unable to learn how to move on. After the breakup, one question keeps ringing through your head over and over again: How will I go on without him? When there's no chance of rekindling the romance you once had, sometimes you're left with only one choice: Move on. Here's how to get over your ex, forget about him, and move on.
How to get over your ex for good with these 10 post-breakup tips:
1. Change your frame of mind
Our minds are so incredibly powerful that you can control your thinking, even when you think you can’t. He's holding important space in your mind, and it's time to kick him out! He's no longer welcome anymore.
2. Close the door
When you start to think of him, visualize a beautiful, large red door and slam it firmly closed. Then immediately change your thoughts to something fun, relaxing, and/or positive. You are in control, and you're choosing positivity.
3. Stop snooping on his social media
You can't watch him on social media to see what he's doing or who he's with. Social media makes everyone look happy, so this will only hurt you! Block him so it's not even a temptation.
4. Don't ask friends for updates
Hearing what he's doing with his new woman or friends is just a way to hurt yourself and prolong the pain, so stop asking.
5. Don't drive by his house
Stay away from his house. No late-night drive-bys to see who's there. Out of sight, out of mind.
6. Delete his number
Erase his numbers and email from your phone (and all electronics), just in case you're tempted to try to contact him in a weak moment. Stay strong. You can do this!
7. Stop talking about him
You can discuss the ordeal with your friends when it happens, but do not keep rehashing it. If you feel the need to understand it better, counseling is a great way to deal with this.
8. Keep yourself busy.
9. Start journaling
Writing is very therapeutic and helps you heal. It's important to journal the negative experiences because our minds have a way of only remembering the good times when we're lonely.
10. Use positive affirmations daily
Every morning and evening give yourself affirmations to build your self-esteem. We project our feelings to others, so use positive thoughts to attract healthy people into your life.
Deni Abbie is a certified Life Coach, Dating and Relationship Coach, Hypnotherapist, syndicated author, and public speaker.