Women Who Come Across Cringey & Desperate Tend To Overdo These 6 Things
claytons gallary | Canva When it comes to dating disasters, do you ever wonder "What went wrong?" or "Why did he break up with me?"
The truth is, most often women don't know why things fell apart, because they unknowingly played a role in it. So how can women avoid losing a guy? There are some specific things women do to push great guys away.
Women who come across cringey and desperate often overdo these things:
1. They try to get a man to change who he is
Many women get into a relationship thinking they can change the man. If a man makes a change in a relationship, the benefit must outweigh the consequences of that change. People can change, but only if they want to, one study tells us. People can change, but only if they want to, another study says.
2. They have an overwrought sense of urgency
Men liken romance to playing poker. While men pay attention to overall themes, women tend to sweat the small stuff. Women need to know that ulterior motives aren't a man's thing to play at, if he's out late with his friends, he's just out late with his friends.
3. They're intimate on the first date thinking it will make him want them more
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Unfortunate but true, even a man you're dating who is chivalrous but also "red-blooded and carnal". If a woman offers to be intimate on the first date, any man will probably take her up on that. The big problem arises when she is hooking up quickly in hopes he'll stick around longer. Sadly, this doesn't work.
A woman who can walk away with a goodnight kiss and leave the man guessing appeals much more to men. They like the thrill of a chase.
When should you finally take the final step and follow him into his bedroom? According to one study, men waited around 5 dates, and women around 8.
4. They talk his ear off and don't really listen
Women need to think of love as "quiet." In other words, it's what you do when no one is looking, or how you find their hand when things are bad and tell them it's okay. If you hear "I love you" constantly, it loses its value. Love is the result of the events in our lives, not the result of talking about the idea of it.
5. They're dishonest with him
Loyalty is everything. It's the currency of our lives. When women are disloyal to other women, it tells a man they will be disloyal to them, too.
6. They don't allow him to feel like a protector
In the same way that a woman wants to feel taken care of and protected, a man wants to know he's the one who made her feel that way. With a look or word, you can empower men.
Here's one more powerful piece of advice for women: Don't forget why your man fell for you.
Woman and men seem to stop doing the little things they did at the beginning of a relationship that made it fun. Think back and try doing some of the little things you "used" to do for him.
GalTime was an online magazine run by veteran journalists that existed simply to empower and inspire women.
