If You're Making These 7 Tiny Mistakes, You're Dating Mr. Wrong

This person isn't who you need right now.

Last updated on May 28, 2024

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The wrong guy doesn’t show up by accident — you allow it. Watch out for these six common dating mistakes we’ve all made at least once or twice!

If you're making these 6 tiny mistakes, you're dating Mr. Wrong:

1. You think every guy is ‘the one’.

Sometimes, we're so focused on our ultimate goal — a soulmate, a family, etc. — that we tend to hope every guy is The One. We want to find Mr. Right so badly, so we ignore red flags and deal breakers as we strive for the prize.


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2. You mistake chemistry for love.

Chemistry is great, but it will only get you through about six months. Longer, meaningful relationships require some qualities outside of chemistry. Common goals, similar interests, and complimentary personalities are important, to name just a few. We sometimes pick our partners or potential partners based almost entirely on chemistry or appearance and overlook the really important stuff.


3. You ignore problems because you like him.

Remember those red flags and dealbreakers I mentioned earlier? Well, they’re back. Just because a guy has ten qualities you really like about him, that does not excuse his bad behavior! If something is unacceptable, then it’s still unacceptable from someone you like — maybe even more so.

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4. You date to avoid getting hurt.

Dating to avoid hurt doesn’t work. Because the only person you’ll end up hurting is yourself.


5. You feel safer if he’s with you all the time.

He’s really into you, which feels great because you think you’re in control of the situation. He showers you with attention and affection and makes you feel safe — but not in love. You see, the situation I’m describing is where the relationship is not equal. He’s far more into you than you are into him, and that's not fair.

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6. You feel like things moved too fast.

You meet. You sleep with him. He tells you he loves you. You pick names for your first children. You move in together. Then you have your two-week anniversary. Now you’re on a train that’s moving too fast for you to jump off. One of the most obvious signs that you’re in a relationship with a toxic person is that things move much too quickly. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither was a lasting, meaningful relationship. Don't fall for this one. Ending up with the wrong guy doesn't happen by accident. It happens because of what we overlook and tolerate. What are you willing to let go of so you don’t make the same mistake again?

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Lorna Poole is an international coach and professional speaker. She empowers women to love beyond fear, pain, and regret to attract the partner they truly deserve.