5 Ways To Protect Your Daughter In An Era Of Record-High Teen Suicide Rates

When you hear a parent wondering how they can protect their daughter, a lot of people's minds automatically go to thinking about the way that boys may prey upon the girl or young woman. These concerns can range from natural heartbreaks that they will go through to differing emotional engagements between boys and girls who are at different emotional developmental stages, even though they are of the same chronological age, to acts of sexual violence, assault, and rape.

These are aspects that parents are naturally concerned about for their daughters.

However, there is another area that is not talked about as much. There is another way parents need to think about how they protect their daughters. As it is not talked about as much and as it is often clouded in deeper senses of shame, parents may not even think about what they can or need to do to protect their daughter. The area of protection needed is against the prevalence of suicide attempts. Here are some statistics that are shocking in this regard:

During 2019, 18.8% of high school students reported having attempted suicide.
In our nation, there is a 15.15 per 100,000 rate of attempts by young people 15-24 years.
10.0% of youth in grades 9-12 reported that they had made at least one suicide attempt in the past 12 months.
The rate is among Hispanic females at 15.1%.
82% of transgender individuals have considered killing themselves and 40% have attempted suicide.

These numbers continued to climb into 2021 and beyond, leading to a report of record-high metrics in some of these areas. The CDC reports that "Nearly 1 in 3 (30%) seriously considered attempting suicide—up nearly 60% from a decade ago."

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I am sorry if these facts are sobering. This is important to care for to protect our daughters and avoid these tragedies. Now that you understand that this is something to be concerned about, there is good news amidst the pain this represents. The Jason Foundation states that four out of five teens who attempt suicide have given clear warning signs.

This means that if you are aware of what to look for and are paying attention to your daughter, then in the vast majority of cases, you can do something to help your daughter while she is still contemplating suicide. It is important not to dismiss some of these warning signs as simply what is "typical" for a teenager, especially if the behavior or statement is out of character for the particular teenager. Seldom will a teenager exhibit all of these behaviors or even most of these behaviors.

Here are 5 ways to protect your teenage daughter.

1. Watch for suicide threats or similar veiled statements.

These may be made verbally, written, or even in texts or social media comments—here are some examples:

"I'm going to kill myself."
"You'll be glad when I am not around."
"I won't be bothering you anymore."
"I wonder whether I would wake up if I took all those pills."
"My life is horrible, and you can't understand."

2. Look for signs of depression.

Hopelessness and despair, either in the way they carry themselves or in what they describe
Declining performance at school
Losing interest in previously enjoyable activities
Isolation, especially from peers but also from family
Changes in eating and sleeping patterns
Abrupt personality changes, especially if it involves her becoming more irritable or aggressive
Expressions of sadness, especially if out of proportion to what is going on

3. Notice an obsession or preoccupation with death, dying, or suicide.

Often shows up in the creative work she may do, whether it is writing art or some other format
Reading writings about death or suicide
Dwelling on the suicide or suicide attempt of a peer or a popular idol

4. Be aware if she is making final arrangements.

Like adults, she might try to put her affairs in order before attempting suicide, even potentially making some of her funeral arrangements
She may say goodbye to friends and family, letting them know they were important to her or that they had hurt her
There may be particular things that she tries to give away to people that she wants to have them after she is dead

5. Know the miscellaneous signs.

Recent losses in her life from the death of people she cared about or a peer to the loss of an after-school job to a recent breakup
Recent instability within the family, especially a divorce
Loneliness, shame, humiliation, rejection, and similar difficult-to-accept emotions
In serious trouble that has not been her norm
Impulsiveness and inattention
Physical complaints that seem to be more emotionally based than physically based
Increased involvement in drugs or alcohol
Previous suicide attempts greatly increase her risk
In the year after a suicide attempt, the risk of being successful in another attempt is greatly enhanced
Pay attention not only to outright suicide attempts but also to other ways that she is engaging in self-harm

This list provides a good overview of some things to be aware of. When you start seeing several things on the list applying to her, try and have a talk with her or get someone to talk with her. Some people have said if a person is explicitly talking about suicide, they will not attempt suicide, but this is not true.