The One Practical Skill Parents Teach Teens That Actually Stays With Them Forever
No hack need here, reduce teenage struggles in a real and lasting way.
halfpoint | Canva Teens are naturally prone to anxiety, and in today's age of ever-present technology and information, anxiety is more of an issue than ever. Fortunately, there is one effective way to help them manage anxiety: mindfulness.
Mindfulness for an anxious teenager can begin with some resistance, just like mindfulness does for many adults. It is a different way of thinking. Naturally, we are wary of new things, especially when we are anxious. A 2014 study showed how mindfulness is beneficial for stress reduction in teens, with the growing need for stress-reducing interventions for teens.
New habits can be hard to start and sometimes hard to stick with, but don’t worry, you can learn how to deal with anxiety and practice mindfulness.
The unique benefits of mindfulness for today's teenagers
An anxious brain worries about the future or dwells on the past. And the more often you allow yourself to be anywhere but the present, the more efficient your anxious brain will become at avoiding the present. Which means it will take an effort to change this habit.
Mindfulness techniques approach life differently and require you to let go of some self-judgment. For example, you have to let go of judging your thoughts. Your thoughts are just thoughts. Even bullying can be reduced with mindfulness as a study in the Journal of Interpersonal Violence demonstrated "school-based mindfulness intervention distinctly improves trait mindfulness and self-control and reduces bullying behavior among teenagers."
Mindfulness gives you the awareness of what you are unnecessarily bringing into the situation. It can give you a moment to choose a response instead of emotionally rushing forward.
By being present, you are not allowing your mind or your emotions to take you away from the present. Also, you will begin to recognize what triggers you, what you do to avoid that trigger, and what you miss out on because of it. You will start to see you have a choice in your actions and words. With that choice comes a lot of power.
The more present you are in life, the more you realize you make better decisions, manage your emotions, and are fully engaged in life.
A few side benefits mindfulness offers teens are:
- Enhanced focus and reduced attention difficulties
- Improved mental health and well-being by reducing stress and depression
- Improved social skills
- Increased immune function
- Reduced emotional reactivity
- Can contribute to making you more compassionate and empathetic
It is incredible to think a simple tweak in how you operate towards thoughts and emotions can have so much positive change. All it takes is a few minutes each day.
Here are 12 ways teens can practice mindfulness for their anxiety (and you can use these too).
1. Bring your awareness to your breath and body for at least 30 seconds
Your body and breath are rooted in the present moment. Never will your physical body be in the past or the future. Only your mind can transport you away from the present.
By bringing your awareness to your physical body and breath, you are bringing your mind to the present and will begin to feel grounded and calm. Thirty seconds or 3 deep breaths is enough to notice a change, but I encourage you to spend more time in this meditative, mindfulness state.
2. Take deep, slow breaths when you feel overwhelmed or anxious
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How your mind and body are connected and can affect each other cannot be stressed enough. If your mind is anxious and quickly moving, your breath will be shallow and fast.
If your mind is calm and focused, your breathing will slow and deepen. Breathing deeply can be done at set times throughout the day or used when you need a quick moment of mindfulness to reset.
As being present becomes second nature, you will begin to notice your body automatically deepen your breaths during stressful moments!
3. Art therapy and coloring books are a creative way to process through emotions
You can freestyle a drawing or purchase meditation coloring books, which are more complex and require you to color slowly.
Art helps you process feelings or thoughts differently than with language, often giving you new insights. It also gives you a healthy outlet to express and let go of your feelings, thoughts, and fears.
4. Take a walk
A mindful walk can help clear your mind, especially outside. Choosing to walk in nature can have an even more significant rejuvenating effect, improving your attention.
To walk mindfully, begin walking and take note of how your body feels, checking in with each limb. You can also tap into your senses, noticing what you can see, hear, touch, smell, and maybe even taste.
For me, I always need to check in with my pace. If I walk too quickly, my thoughts begin to race and create an anxious feeling.
5. Begin a yoga practice
A yoga practice fosters mindfulness because it requires body awareness to move through each pose while maintaining slow, deep breaths.
By focusing on your body and breath, you are out of your head and only in the present moment. There are many resources online to start a practice, and most studios offer discounts for students!
6. Play a board game with friends or family
It’s hard to enjoy a game, let alone win, if you are not actively involved in the game.
That’s mindfulness!
7. Eat your meals mindfully
Mindful eating is taking your time while you eat, focusing on each bite and how your body feels in response. It is also awareness of when you are hungry and when you are full; not eating out of boredom or while distracted. Mindful eating not only helps you balance meal size but also can improve your nutrition.
When you gain awareness of how you feel when eating, you will recognize how food affects you. When you know how food affects you, you make healthier choices that keep you feeling good.
8. Use guided meditations to practice mindful techniques
Mindfulness meditations are done by paying attention to your breath, and, when your attention wanders, bringing it back to your breath. Guided meditations, especially those in apps, help keep you focused on the meditation. However, they are not necessary to practice.
Mindfulness meditation is relatively easy to do once you realize (and expect) your mind will You cannot stop your thoughts and emotions, but you can learn to sink below them and discover the reason they surface. Some find it helps to use "labels" when their mind wanders.
For example, say to yourself "thought" if your mind wandered with a thought, "sound" if your attention was captured by a sound, or "sensation" if your mind becomes over-focused on a body sensation.
9. Avoid multitasking and learn time management
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Although many of us multitask, truthfully, no one can do it effectively because our brains lose data in the process of switching from task to task. Although it feels slower, you are more efficient and accurate, completing one task before moving to the next, as demonstrated in a 2014 study that found, "multitasking initially helps to reduce the time taken, but only up to a certain threshold level, after which it increases in the level of multitasking".
Improve the quality of your work and your mindful ability by focusing entirely (mindfully!) on one thing at a time.
10. Interact with the community through volunteering or trying new things
Trying to grow new relationships and getting to know other people requires you to focus on whoever you are talking to.
Be sure to fully listen, rather than preparing what you will next say. Also, developing new friendships is an excellent way to understand yourself better and express yourself in a way that lets others better understand you.
Use the three-senses exercise to bring your focus to the present. This exercise forces you to take note of what you are currently experiencing by asking yourself three questions about what you can see, hear, and touch.
The key with this exercise is to stop and take a moment to answer each question one at a time — it’s not one to rush through.
- What are three things I can hear?
- What are three things I can see?
- What are three things I can physically feel?
Mindful apps are also an excellent resource to get you started and confident in your practice.
- Stop, Breathe, and Think: This app is an excellent place to start for teens because it begins with a questionnaire to determine your current mood and will recommend guided meditations based on that. It teaches not only mindfulness but also emotional intelligence.
- Smiling Mind: This app is specially designed for adolescents in mind to help them work towards a balanced life.
There is no right way to practice mindfulness.
The goal is to find a state of focused relaxation, even if just for a moment, by deliberately paying attention to your thoughts and sensations, without judgment. Approach your experiences without concluding that they are right, bad, successful, or failed.
The root reason mindfulness for teen anxiety is beneficial is because you are learning to accept your experiences as they are instead of reacting to them. Often we cling to the positive or reject and avoid the negative in life.
A 2017 study showed it only takes 10-20 minutes of mindfulness a day to see positive changes in your life! Even easier, it does not have to be all in one sitting, but sprinkled throughout your day.
Teenagers have problems that require guidance to navigate, no matter how petty or trivial we assume the issues are.
Without help and support, teens can develop depression, anxiety, and loneliness —issues that will be carried with them as they become adults and enter the real world.
Stephanie Gutzmer is a certified yoga instructor and life coach. She also holds a doctorate in audiology, specializing in tinnitus. Her unique background and training allow her to help others promote health and well-being in their lives.
