10 Reasons Why Teens Are Angry

10 Reasons Why Teens Are Angry [EXPERT]
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If we think about what are teens are going through, we may find that it's so obvious why they experience anger so often and so intensely. Once we do, the compassion and empathy will ooze out of us. We may even want to cry for them. Yet, we still have to parent, offer structure and guidance.

Parenting a teen is no easy task. They seem hard to reach. Teens know too much to think if they share their pain with you, that you would be qualified to help them. Teens are in a tough spot and it often makes them feel frustration and anger. Here are 10 reasons why.

1. Oppression. During teenage years, a child is becoming more independent and views most authority as oppressive—yes, cruel control of their individuality and expression. They are trying on a variety of personalities to see which actually works and fits for them and are faced with a lot of opposition from authority. They are more interested in what their peers are doing, thinking and choosing during this time because they are going through the same things and can relate. 20 Ways Your Addiction Affects Your Kids

2. They're stuck. Teens are stuck in various environments, at home, school and religious affiliations, in which they spend most of their time. Their lives are dictated by the decisions made by their parents, their schools and the progression into their parents religious choices, if involved. They don't have many autonomous choices that they are allowed to make. Rebellion seems to be the best answer. They know that they can choose rebellion to feel some type of control in their lives. 

3. Socialized confusion. We are all born as who we are. As children we get to discover the world around us in the way of our natural instinct and true personality directs. Once a child begins school, and becomes exposed to difference and socialization, they are taught in various ways to become stifled. As teens, they are now expected to be more responsible and are evaluating the way things are differently. This leaves them to consider the mixed messages of self, parental guidance, society and peer groups. What a difficult time and process to go through.

4. Awkward. Teens are making that transition between being a child and becoming an adult. They're still attracted to childish amusements, and yet feel they have enough know-how to act in adult roles. Authority figures expect them to be obedient children, but act mature and make the right decisions. They now are surrounded by physical and emotional attractions by their peers and may feel some themselves. They don't know what to do. How I Learned To Love Myself In Alcoholics Anonymous

5. Puberty. Teens are now experiencing hormonal changes and physical development. This can be a complete physical and physiological metamorphosis. They don't understand all that they're feeling and are not comfortable with what is happening. 

6. Social pressure. Your teen is constantly inundated with social pressures. Don't you remember middle school and high school? You thought it was the be-all, end-all to life. Now you look back and realize what a "zoo" they were. Teens are being labeled, bullied, harassed, and are trying to hold up an image to fit in, stand out or even be invisible. Teens are under pressure to be what they're not, to survive. They are constantly concerned of what others think. They get lost.

7. Relationships"Should I or shouldn't I? Am I old enough, good looking enough? Everyone is doing it! What do I think; what do my parents think? Should I get physical? What if I get pregnant? Am I pregnant? Is she pregnant? Will others talk good or bad about me? Will I get a reputation? I need a partner, it might make me feel better and at least I'll have an ally. I can't let my parents know. I hate my parents, they won't let me date yet!" This is a lot to think about for any teenager. 15 Undeniable (But Often-Overlooked) Warning Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship

8. Responsibility and accountability. Teens are expected to do everything, and do it right now. House chores, get good grades, act appropriately, don't give in to temptation and social pressures, make the right decisions, know what they want to do for the rest of their lives, be respectful, act happy, be cooperative, show initiative, get a job ... and so on. 

9. Teens don't know how to make themselves happy. In this transitional stage, there are so many people and systems telling them what to do and how to think. Often, teens don't know who to listen to and they forget how to listen to themselves.

10. Teenagers have a mind of their own now. This is when your child is becoming an adult. They've been forming their own thoughts and opinions. They have realized that you did not hang the moon and are imperfect. They feel that they are being lead by authorities that don't know what they are doing, and want to be left alone to make their own decisions and mistakes. Tennagers have individual desires and aspirations because they are their own person, just like you are. They don't understand why you just won't let them be who they are, and they get angry about it.

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In light of all this, we realize that teens get angry and with good cause. Now the question is, how can we help? You surely have a lot coming into your awareness already, but if needed, check out Help Your Teen Deal With Life.

To get help in dealing with parenthood more intentionally yourself or would like to help your teen become more focused in living his/her life more intentionally aware within the teenage limitations, I would love to help. Feel free to contact me through my website's contact page.

Another offering to become more consciously aware in your own life and some tools to pass onto your teen, check out my book, Mastering the Art of Feeling Good.