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Career

Years in Practice

6-10 years

where

Pittsburgh PA 15202 - United States

Credentials

CHT, CLC, CPC

I Practice in

All areas, please inquire

I AM FLUENT IN

English

I Believe

The strength of one mind can become the beacon for many hearts.

About Tom Eng

Diagnosed with Alzheimer's, my mother fell down her basement stairs, severely injuring her neck and spine. After undergoing emergency spinal surgery, 'mom' would spend the last year of her life in and out of the hospital.

I felt the guilt of "not being enough" in terms of taking care of my mother, my family, my job, and my brother, Joe, with downs syndrome - who had lived with mom up until the accident.

These events took me down a negative path that almost led to my family living on welfare. It was a low point in my life.

Overwhelmed, I turned to life coaching for help. Through professional coaching, I realized a life changing experience - restoring my life and revealing a greater sense of purpose and strength.

Now I'm a certified professional life coach helping others to create life changing experiences of their own.

Tom Eng Success Stories

First Time Manager Rises To First Time Leader

Author

Barry had been recently promoted as the Marketing Manager of his department. Seven former peers now reported to him. Despite being a first-time manager, Barry believed he could perform at a management level.more

However, Barry was concerned that the dynamics of the group would change. He worried about how he would be viewed dealing with conflicts, former peers, and abrasive personalities.

Barry’s worries were born from a desire for relevance and his perception of uncertainty about his management skills.

One of Barry’s senior direct reports was unhappy about his promotion. He had been with the company for ten years and argued that he should have been considered for the manager position. He felt entitled. And he let the group know with negative remarks directed at Barry.

Regrettably, the damaging impact of employees who expect a high level of relevance runs rampant in most workplaces. The demand for relevance, often at the casual expense of others, reduces learning, growth, and collaboration. It tends to create a work environment in which 20% of the people do 80% of the work. And yet, from the viewpoint of upper management, everything seems be going okay or even very well.

To support Barry, I directed him to focus on what he could control. That meant two things: (1) focusing on his vision for the department and (2) focusing on what it would take for him to succeed in his new role.

I encouraged Barry to get clear on his goals for the next three months. I challenged him to define the value he would deliver to the company and to his department. And I impressed upon him the importance of leading his team with compassion rather than relevance.

When a leader steps up and provides value, people rally to your side and issues with personal dynamics dissipate.

Barry met with each member of his department to reset expectations, to listen, and to get each everyone’s concerns and feedback. That showed he cared.

A few weeks later, Barry emailed me that everything was going fine. Even the unhappy senior employee had softened his tone. More importantly, Barry had developed a new confidence in his ability to lead people.

From Chasing The Wrong Dream To Finding Lifelong Happiness

Client

Enrolled in college as an art major, Carla’s real dream was to become a doctor.more

Carla grew up around the family practice, developing a special love for healing people. Both her parents were doctors. And her two brothers and sister were already enrolled in medical school.

However, Carla had adopted a limiting belief that she was lazy about studying. She would procrastinate doing her school work until the very last moment. Then she would cram in all the studying at one time and feel completely overwhelmed. As a result, she settled for passing grades, thinking that was her best.

But that wasn’t her best. Not by a long shot.

Carla wanted desperately to enroll in medical school. But she was afraid that she would not be able to do as well as her siblings and would disappoint her parents.

When Carla approached me, she wasn’t sure if she should remain an art major or transfer to medical school. She was confused.

As her coach, I wanted to pinpoint the source of her fears. As we talked, I learned that she had been diagnosed with dyslexia during high school. She received therapy to help treat it.

When a client informs me about a medical condition, I let them know in no uncertain terms that I’m not able to provide medical advice or recommendations in any form. But I am able to support them in their goals and aspirations from a coaching perspective.

Interestingly, after acknowledging the dyslexia, Carla said that she was pretty sure she could handle medical school but hadn’t given it her best shot yet.

That bit of information revealed there was a spark of hope inside … in her CORE! In most cases, a client doesn’t pick on this because they’re too focused on the negative.

I said to Carla, “It’s time to give medicine your best shot. And that shot’s going to fill you with a sense of calm and purpose because medicine is your dream.”

She started to cry … happy tears.

I praised her for her authentic moment. Once she composed herself, I asked her what made her cry.

Carla explained that what I had said reminded her of something that her father use to say to encourage her: “Give it your best shot.”

She had just outgrown a limiting belief.

Any time we outgrow a limiting belief, or overcome a challenge, we make progress in life.

Carla decided to transfer to medical school. When she informed her  parents, her mother and father were very supportive. That said, they would have been supportive regardless of her decision.

In addition, Carla improved her grades by spreading out her study time. This allowed her to learn in chunks which is the way our brains are wired to take in information. Carla had made great progress.

Human beings are like vessels, holding countless lessons waiting to be learned. Discovering and learning these lessons is an integral part of making progress in life.

And the ability to keep making progress in life is the key to finding lifelong happiness.

Overcoming Her Inner Critic Led Her Closer To The Super Bowl

Client

Author's Note: This is the story of a client, Angela Allen, who transformed her inner critic into an inner champion. This transformation led Angela closer to the Super Bowl than she ever dreamed possible.more

As a child, Angela Allen was always curious. She would always come up with new activities and adventures for her friends. As she grew up, she embraced her entrepreneurial spirit which ranged from selling lemonade to selling greeting cards door-to-door.

But Angela’s childhood wasn’t without challenges. At the time, growing up in Gardena, California – a town on the border of Compton – was made difficult by the presence of rival gangs and random outbursts of violence. At times, Angela found herself running from gun shots or being confronted by gang members demanding what “set she claimed” which was slang for asking which gang she belonged to. In many ways a blessing, Angela’s mother raised her and her sister in the strictest manner; school was mandatory and college was understood.

In the mid-1990s, Angela graduated from college with a degree in graphic arts. Unable to find work, she took a job with a securities firm in Los Angeles. She was physically present, but not present … always looking to the future.

One day, her senior vice president said that she was a great employee. But he saw “something” in her. He felt as though she were a caged bird who needed to spread her wings. What he saw in Angela was her entrepreneurial spirit. And so, he let her go.

Out of work, Angela caught up with an old friend who hired her as an event consultant for the sports marketing division of his firm. Because Angela had various contacts in the form of professional football and basketball athletes, she was able to develop several highly successful marketing events. And within two years, Angela decided to start her own business as a celebrity event planner.

In 1996, Angela set up shop, found a corporate sponsor, and produced an award show that drew several professional athletes in the Los Angeles market. Each year after that brought additional success to Angela as bonafide celebrity event planner.

In retrospect, Angela faced many challenges trying to get her event planning business off the ground. At times, she felt like she didn’t belong in the male-dominated industry of professional sports. Angela said, “I’m in the valley of giants here, little me.” But whenever she faced a wall, she also found the doors and opened them up. In fact, one of the transitions she started to make was working more and more with the wives of professional athletes. She had found her unique niche.

Then in 1999, Angela’s father called on her to help run the family funeral home business. He wanted to leave the business in the family in the event of his passing. Angela was best suited for the responsibility. She wasn’t exactly upset about the situation, but she was apprehensive.

“I was apprehensive and prayed for a month until I felt peace about the move,” says Angela.
Angela relocated to Louisiana to learn the family business. As a result, her celebrity event planning business hit a wall … that is, until 2000.

In 2000, the Super Bowl was being held in Louisiana. Angela got an idea! With the financial backing of her father and mother, Angela created a unique charity event to support the Operation Haiti Education Mandate. The event was centered around the concept of a fashion show featuring the wives (of professional football players and other athletes) as the models. In this inaugural year, the wives purchased tables which provided the donations to charity. Attended by almost 100 people, the event was so successful that the wives asked Angela about next year’s event in San Diego.

Angela hadn’t planned on a second event, but the thought of it made perfect sense. She produced next year’s event in San Diego which was officially sponsored by Nordstrom. Each year after that, the event grew; sponsors grew.

Today, Angela is looking ahead to expand her charitable event offerings to help more great causes and individuals in need.

On January 31, 2014, Angela produced the 13th Annual Super Bowl Fashion Show Fundraiser in New York. The event supports the charitable goals of the Off The Field Players’ Wives Association.

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