15 Things Deeply In Love Couples Do Daily For A Healthy Relationship

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15 Things Deeply In Love Couples Do Daily To Have A Healthy Relationship

If you want to keep your body healthy, you need to exercise regularly — it's the repetitive nature of this practice that pays long-term dividends.

This is also true for relationships.

If you want to have a healthy relationship and connect on a deep, romantic level with your partner, you've got to spend time working out how to fall deeper in love and be more connected than ever before, no matter what problems life throws your way.

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So what sort of “calisthenics” can be helpful for creating a lasting love?

If you're patient and persistent, daily practices or exercises can help you stay healthy and grow together. You don’t have to do them all, but a few each day will make you feel more like a healthy couple.

Here are 15 practices you can do daily to bring more love into your relationship and be healthier as a couple:

1. Remember the vision you have for your relationship.

Sit down and create an idea of how you want to be as a couple. Think of it as a mantra or a theme song. Try out a few like, “We are a loving couple” or “We are happy together.” Find one that makes you both smile or laugh.

Say it daily for a few weeks and then change it if you like. It's a declaration of who you are together. Saying it reminds you of your joint commitment.

2. Acknowledge each other.

Say something every day that you appreciate about your partner. Even a small thing allows you to feel like your partner is paying attention and is grateful for being with you.

It can be a thank you or a statement of an aspect of your partner that you really like. “Honey, I love how you look in the morning.” or “I love that you got up early to make coffee this morning.”

3. Check in about your needs and your partner’s needs.

Just ask, “Is there something you need today that I can help with?”

Or let your partner know what you need: “I could use some help with the kids today.”

4. Make requests and offers.

Take some time to make a request of your partner or offer to help them in some way. It doesn’t have to be something they necessarily need, but just an act of generosity.

Remember that you don’t have to do this every day, but it is nice to be in a giving mood sometimes, or just to give yourself permission to ask for something.

5. Take time to share and communicate your feelings.

This might take some practice. Try to say something about how you feel each day, not like a complaint but like an inventory of what is going on emotionally for you. It will allow you to feel closer to your partner. It doesn’t require any action.

It is just a statement that doesn’t require fixing anything, just listen to each other. You might want to consider doing this at night after the day is done.

6. Acknowledge your accomplishments.

You're on a team. When something works well, you should celebrate it together, Plan something to work on for your couple each day, and then celebrate whatever you are able to get done.

You may have finished a big project, responded to a crisis, or just had fun hanging out. Be present to what your couple accomplished that day, and say it out loud. Make a toast to your victory, or go out for a celebratory drink or meal.

7. Nurture yourself every day.

You will be more fun to be with if you are happier and more content. If you feel better, your partner will likely feel better as well. Making your partner happy is important for both of you. It makes their job easier, and you get to feel good as well.

Check in with each other at the end of the day and report what you did to nurture yourself. Share with each other what you plan to do the next day.

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8. Create a connection with others you both care about.

Be with other people as a couple, especially other couples. It can create opportunities to laugh, to see how others deal with things you deal with, and to share some fun.

Plan or make contact with someone every day, if possible.

9. Share a dream together.

Think about the future, something you might like to do or be in the future, near or distant. Maybe it’s, “Wouldn’t it be fun to have a dog?” or someday, when the kids are grown, we might be able to sleep in together.”

And try sharing your night dreams in the morning when you remember them. It only takes a few minutes, and it is a nice way to have some intimate connection.

10. Stay in touch with each other throughout the day.

Just because you're separated during the day doesn’t mean you don’t think about each other or want to be thought about. Say something, text something, or drop a post.

A quick, “Love ya!” can make your day and have you feel connected.

11. Coordinate your day with each other.

Talk about what's happening today. Not like a report, but just a bit of information. Maybe something important is going on or just some logistical conversation about picking up the kids or dinner.

You can make your life easier if you know what the other person is up to, when they will be home, or where they will be located.

12. Hug and kiss (even virtually).

Touching, even electronically, makes you feel wanted and connected. It is remarkable how often people in a relationship still feel lonely. One favorite of ours is to have a ten-second kiss.

That is long enough to feel really connected to each other. Try it.

13. Do something sexy to or for your partner.

Take it a step further and get sexy with each other. Blow in his ear, pat her rear, blow kisses to each other out in public, put on a sexy piece of clothing, sit on his lap.

Gaze into each other’s eyes before going to bed, sleep naked, or do anything else that brings out the passion in your relationship, even if for a moment. Leaving a love note for your partner somewhere is always a nice touch also!

14. Share a laugh together.

You may have noticed that your relationship has the power to make you very happy or very sad. Bringing some humor into the situation will help you get some perspective on it all that can lighten things up for both of you.

Nothing brightens the day more than a good laugh shared with someone. No matter what stress or conflict you may be experiencing, try to see the humor in it.

Even on a good day, try telling each other a joke, watch a funny television show together, or watch your kids having fun, and share in laughing with them.

15. Do something “outside the box” or unexpected.

Be generous and do some kind of favor for your partner with or without being asked. It can be something small, like bringing him or her a glass of water or a cup of coffee; or doing something bigger once in a while, like cleaning his car or bringing her flowers.

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Phyllis Koch-Sheras and Peter Sheras are clinical psychologists and authors who specialize in working with couples for building healthy, lasting relationships. For more information about how they can help you, visit their website.

This article was originally published at Couple Power. Reprinted with permission from the author.