Empowering Women

Years in Practice

10 years +


Riverdale NY 10463 - United States



Additional Expertise

Relationship Coach, Sex Coach, Sex Educator, Speaker/Presenter, YourTango Expert Partner



I Believe

Pamela Madsen is a fearless advocate for women’s health and integrated sexuality. During her 25-year career, Pamela has leveraged her raw honesty and well-informed wit to help strip the stigma from infertility, female desire and pleasure, body image and weight . The willingness to use her personal struggles to have children, discover her innate sexuality and find self-esteem has made Pamela one of the most accessible and relatable figures in the vanguard of women’s wellness.

Pamela’s trademark openness and humor blew the lid off one of the worst kept secrets in this country: the power of the erotic core buried inside every woman to transform her life. With "Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Still Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner" (Rodale, January 2011), she wrote a frank, touching and bestselling memoir that has become a rallying cry for thousands of women who find that they’ve spent lifetimes sublimating their sexuality, often with dire consequences to their physical, emotional and relationship well-being.

Taking the hard-won lessons of her own self-discovery on the road, Pamela meets with women across the country — every day mothers, daughters, wives and girlfriends — inspiring them to find their own paths to becoming women in full.

She talks from the heart about connecting to one’s true erotic identity and using that life force to relax in their own skin, strengthen their relationships, and seize opportunities they once thought out of reach. Pamela is their soul sister, the slightly chubby woman next door who’s found the secret sauce. And as Sassy and Jane magazines founder Jane Pratt recently said of Pamela, “I want what she’s having.”  Now through one-on-one coaching with Pamela, everyone can!

A veteran speaker and educator, Pamela is a renowned blogger, who writes for Psychology Today, The Fertility Advocate and episodically, the The Huffington Post.

She’s advising members of her gated online community, found at beingshameless.com, how to access the transformative power of pleasure. She brings it home on the speaker circuit, in face-to-face workshops, one-on-one coaching sessions, women’s circles and in book clubs.

During a recent six-week cross-country tour, Pamela spoke to thousands of people at venues as varied as big independent bookstores and specialized conferences such as The Curvy Revolution. She appeared alongside thought leaders, Marianne Williamson and Maya Angelou among them, at the virtual Women’s International Summit For Health.

After her years as the Founder and first Executive Director of The American Fertility Association, Pamela has become a trusted media resource. She’s recently appeared on CNN, AARP Primetime Radio, The Dr. Laura Berman Show, FLOURISH (Dr. Christiane Northrop’s radio show), The Jane Pratt Show and Playboy Radio to name a few. She’s been featured in Newsweek, Vogue, 60 Minutes and Oprah.




About Pamela Madsen

Pamela Madsen is a sexuality and fertility coach, and author of the best selling memoir, "Shameless, How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Somehow Got Home in Time To Cook Dinner" (Rodale, Jan. 2011).

“My goal is to help emancipate women from the ‘woulda’s’ and ‘shoulda’s’ that have kept us in denial and darkness for thousands of years. I know it’s possible for women to heal their sexual identities and embrace their bodies and desires in a safe, sane and consensual way—even within the bounds of marriage,”

Pamela is a pioneer in fertility advocacy whose raw honesty, indefatigable will and wit, lifted “infertility” from a whispered curse to a pop culture cause célèbre. With a mix of intelligence, humor and startling bluntness, she leveraged her own struggles with and triumph over reproductive challenges into a national organization that successfully supported the family-building rights of all people.

Pamela is at it again—this time in the name of genuine sexual liberation for women. Armed with more than seven years of explicit experience and study, she is lifting the veil from the nature of women’s desire, pleasure and happiness and emerging as a leading voice for erotic human rights.

She is rallying women to live the full and integrated lives that are possible only when they embrace their sexuality. And she walks her talk, having worked with sexual healers and surrogates in the sacred intimacy underground. She’s taken countless workshops and become a certified sexologist/somatic sex educator.

Just as she did with infertility, Pamela is bringing new focus on sexual behaviors and predilections, speaking and writing from the heart without judgment or hypocrisy.

Still a force in the fertility field, her daily blog, www.thefertilityadvocate.com is a breakfast essential for reporters, writers and policymakers who have followed Pamela’s 20-year ascendance.  Pamela not only provides coaching services to people looking to explore their sexuality - but she is also available to individuals and couples trying to build a family.

She currently lives in the Riverdale section of New York City with her husband of 29 years, Kai, and their two sons, Tyler, 21, and Spencer, 17.


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