5 Fun (And Important!) Things To Do As A Couple When You're Bored

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If you're looking for fun things to do with boyfriend or girlfriend when you're bored, you can use that downtime to strengthen your relationship and get even closer to the person you're dating at the same time!

Healthy relationships take a lot of work, but there are plenty of fun activities you can do as a couple that will also help you bond and fall more deeply in love.

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And one particularly great way to spend a relaxing day together is by exploring, dreaming and imagining what it would be like if you could help each other's life goals and dreams come true.

Here are 5 fun things to do with your boyfriend or girlfriend when you're bored that will bring you closer as a couple and help you fall more deeply in love.

1. Talk about each other's wildest dreams — and really hear each other.

Your role as a partner is to help your boyfriend or girlfriend become their best self. So ask them about their dreams, and what it is they believe is holding them back from achieving them. Maybe there's a way to get there, and maybe you can help, even just by listening.


During this conversation, ask your partner deep questions like:

  • If you could do or be anything at all, what would that be?
  • What have you done so far in life that brings you the most joy and fulfillment?
  • If there were no barriers, what would you change?

2. Explore what those dreams would look like if you gave them a try together.

Hold off on any judgments, opinions, fears or advice in order to create a safe space for sharing your deepest desires with one another.

Talk with your partner about the skills and gifts they have that could help their dream become a reality, and explore why each particular dream is so meaningful to them.


Ask them questions like:

  • What would that dream job do for you?
  • What excites you most about that idea?
  • Are there people who inspired you to think about this?

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3. Strategize together.

Some dreams may feel nearly impossible to achieve and unrealistic at first, but don't allow each to get stuck or begin feeling hopeless.


Ask supportive and encouraging questions, like:

  • What is one small step towards that dream we could realistically take right now?
  • Who could we talk to that could mentor or help us toward making that dream happen?
  • What are the 5 most important steps you need to take to make it to the dream?
  • What is the best way I can support you on the ;way to living your best life?
  • How do you think our dreams compliment each other?

4. Create a list of potential resources and barriers.

Often, people have more richness in their life than they realize. It may be who you know. It may be resilience. Perhaps your resources include followers on social media. Mobilizing these strengths can help your boyfriend or girlfriend move forward to actively pursue their dreams with intention.

Help them take stock of their barriers, as well, so you can work on a strategy for overcoming them together.

Barriers may be concrete, like, "I don’t have the money to go to school," or psychological, such as, "No one in my family went to college, so I don’t know if I believe that I can do it."


As partners, ask each other, "What barriers do you think I live with that I shouldn't?"

Then, brainstorm a list of shared and individual resources which you can use to support one another in moving closer to your dreams.

5. Document and re-visit ideas you've shared with one another.

Whether you make a vision board, a mission or vision statement, or a list of steps that will help you achieve your dream, do it together.

Find a path toward your goals both as individuals and as a couple. Then, set regular times to re-visit how things are going and what next steps you should consider.


As you help your partner become their best self, both of you win!

So, be that supportive person in your partner’s life and help them show the world all they have to offer.

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Marilyn Orr, MA, CEC, PCC is a relationship coach with Luv Life Coaching who is passionate about equipping couples with the tools they need for real and lasting intimacy. Take our online questionnaire to find out how we can help you fulfill your dreams.