10 Feel-Good Ways To Heal Your Broken Heart After A Breakup

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How To Get Over A Breakup & Heal A Broken Heart With 10 Self-Care Ideas
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Make time for yourself everyday.

We've all been through a painful breakup. Maybe it was your idea to break up. Maybe it wasn't.

It doesn't matter. Right now, you are feeling alone.

You can't believe you are going through this, again, and you just want to know how to get over a breakup and heal your broken heart.

The first thing to remember when getting over a breakup is that you aren't alone and that feeling better is within your control — since implementing some simple self-care ideas is the best thing you can do to start healing after heartbreak.

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This is something a lot of people don't like to talk about. You may be in the bargaining stage of the loss and you're wondering where you went wrong or why you didn't see it coming. Everyone goes through this after a breakup.

Learning how to get over someone you love is not easy, but give yourself time to recover. You may be feeling lonely and it may make you want to run into another relationship. This is called being on the rebound — you are searching for a partner based on feeling lonely. It's easy to make this mistake, so make sure you give yourself time to heal and get over your broken heart before diving into a new relationship.

Even if it feels impossible right now, you can get over your breakup, heal and move on — and it all starts with practicing self-care.

Here are 10 self-care ideas that will help you figure out how to get over a breakup and heal your broken heart.

1. Write it out

Keeping a journal can help reduce stress. This will help get your feelings out. Nobody has to see it, so you can say what you want.

If you like, you can pick a subject to write about or write a poem.

2. Hug it out

If you are around a loved one, give them a hug or ask for a hug. Touch is good for you. We have gotten away from it in our culture.

I love it when my 7-year-old nephew hugs me. It’s even better when he doesn’t want to let go.

3. Do an art project

This will change your focus. All you need are some pencils and paper. Pick an object to sketch or sketch your pet. You can also color.

I love all of the coloring books that are out now for adults.

4. Try mindfulness

This is a form of meditation. There are many apps out there for mindfulness. Download one and try it out.

You can start with 5 minutes and eventually go up to 30 minutes. Mindfulness is about being in the present. You can’t go back and you can’t predict the future.

5. Try some light yoga

With yoga, you get the mind and body connection. This is a great way to reduce stress.

Start with a few gentle poses. Simply rotating your neck can do wonders.

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6. Stop and take a deep breath

This can help reduce cortisol levels, which can help reduce stress and anxiety.

If you can, close your eyes and try to clear your mind. Just focus on your breath. Pay attention to where it is in your body and follow it. This will help keep you in the present.

7. Listen to music

Research has shown that listening to music can help reduce stress. Listen to music with positive lyrics that has a soothing sound. Try not to think about what is stressing you out while you are listening to music.

8. Go for a walk

Get outside in the sunshine, if you can. The fresh air is good for your brain.

Try and keep your mind off of what is stressing you out. Stop and look at a flower or a tree. Take time to notice the details.

9. Spark some scents

Aromatherapy is a good way to reduce stress. If you have some of the oils, put a little behind your neck or underneath your nose.

Then, take a few deep soothing breaths. You can also close your eyes. This will help block out distractions.

10. Hang with your pet

Studies have shown that pets help reduce stress, also known as pet therapy.

Your cat or dog loves to spend time with you. You can hang on the couch or play with your pet. Time with your pet, is time well spent.

Now that you know what to do after a breakup, make sure to start with at least one of these self-care tips today.

Make sure to take time for yourself everyday. This is not selfish. This is taking care of yourself. Unfortunately, in our society you are led to believe taking care of yourself will lead to a life of being selfish.

Research has found this isn't the case.

This is a list to help get you started. You can try other things. What's important is that you find ways to revive that work for you. Not only will this help in your personal life; it also helps at work as well. The goal is having a good work-life balance.

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Lianne Avila is a Marriage and Family Therapist helping people in San Mateo, CA who are looking to create a life that is happier and more fulfilling. Please subscribe to Lianne’s newsletter on Lessons for Love to learn more about her services and expertise.

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