5 Critical Steps To Take To Embrace Your Most Authentic Self

Discovering your authentic self is the key to success and moving through difficult challenges.

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You want to know how to be yourself and be more authentic. After all, nothing is more draining than trying to be someone or something you’re not.

If you’re forcing yourself to fit into an unrealistic image because you think that’s what your family, friends, significant other, or colleagues expect, you’re going to burn out fast.

Embrace the real you and learn how to love yourself, you break through the concrete barrier.


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Authenticity is a buzzword that you may be sick of hearing. Yet, it’s a really strong concept wrapped into one single word. That one word describes the level of honesty and truthfulness you have with yourself.


If you are truly your authentic self, your true personality will shine through in every aspect of your life and you will find happiness.

When you are authentic, people will notice a shift in you, a grounded quality and they will feel the difference.

So, how do you become your authentic self?

There are 5 steps you can take.

1. Identify your core values

Being authentic starts with knowing who you are. Knowing your core values is the cornerstone of stepping into your authentic self.

Ask yourself: What is most important to you? How will you express that in your relationships, family life, at work, and in the business world? They inform all of your decisions, from your work to your partner, to the house you buy, and to how you raise your children.


Incorporating these values into your life will attract the people and situations that are heartfelt.

2. Find your voice

Authentic and happy people use their voices.

Finding one’s voice doesn’t only pertain to using your actual vocal cords or learning how to sound smart.

There’s an unmistakable power in knowing and being your real self.

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3. Be direct

Another aspect of finding your voice to tap into your authentic self is to speak your truth. This may mean pushing out of your comfort zone.

Authentic sharing is the goal, not being insensitive, critical or aggressive just for the sake of being direct. There’s no advantage to hurting people's feelings.


4. Feel comfortable in your own skin

This concept is about confidence and learning how to be happy with yourself.

Confidence is the cornerstone of success. Yet, being confident is a hard one for many people. It’s often the feeling of not being good enough.

When I was younger, I was an extremely shy and introverted person. I felt awkward and sometimes invisible. When I really began to accept and love myself and feel good in my skin, my confidence started to shift.

Once you understand and accept your real self, you get comfortable with it.

Don’t think you have to be something you’re not. Try something easy, like only wearing clothing you feel comfortable in. This is an outer measurement, but it’s a great start to feel good physically throughout the day.


Do what feels easy and natural. Loving who you are and showing it to the world will land you success.

5. Conserve your energy and protect your time

When you are overwhelmed with to-do’s and obligations, you may not be able to tune into your authentic self. We are bombarded with offers and emails coming at you.


Your to-do list continues to grow and can be distracting and cause unnecessary anxiety.

Filter the whirlwind of advice coming at you online and minimize the bombardment:

  • Set up boundaries on computer time.
  • Develop a set-in-stone morning routine.
  • Take the time to find the real you. Someone you like and want to hang out with.

If you are in transition or setback and want to find love and feel confident about yourself, discovering your authentic self is the key to success in moving through difficult challenges in life.

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Jacqueline Neuwirth is a Certified Life Coach, CPCC, and Master Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner. She helps people find love, heal from toxic relationships, boost confidence, and improve relationships.