3 Secrets To Strengthen Your Long-Term Relationship

secrets to a long-term relationship

These simple practices will deepen your bond as a couple.

It's an unfortunately common issue among long-term couples: They eventually get stuck in a pattern. That pattern can take a variety of forms in their relationships — avoiding certain topics, feeling bored, walking on eggshells, frequent;y fighting or misunderstanding, or all of the above.

So when things get tense, stuck, volatile, stale or boring, try these simple practices to deepen your love:

1. Remember what first attracted you to each other. Have a conversation and share what drew you to each other in the beginning. When couples come to me for coaching, I often ask them to tell me the story of how they met and what first attracted them to one another. Each person takes a turn reminiscing about how things felt when they were first discovering one another and falling in love. This brings back those loving feelings.

2. Clear the air so you're really present. When couples have been together a while, little conflicts tend to get swept under the proverbial carpet — where they can't be seen. The only trouble is, these unseen issues can be held in your mind and make it hard for you to be present.

Invite your partner to do a clearing session where both of you get an uninterrupted time of five minutes to speak about, anything you have been reluctant to bring up or have put off bringing up because you were waiting for the right time. This practice is described fully in my recent book, Saying What's Real, available at my personal site. Keep reading...

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