How To Make Your 50s The Best Decade Yet

How To Make Your 50s The Best Decade Yet

Older people are the happiest. Research study after research study consistently confirms this. Many are surprised by this but every survey confirms it. The results hold up even when people have financial or health difficulties. People in their 50s have many advantages. Most will have established their families and friendship networks. Economic stability, or a path to get there, are more likely to be determined. Illness and disability are still decades away. We have a much better idea of who we are and what we want and what makes us happy.

We're Looking Pretty Good Too!   

By 50, most of us have figured out how to dress well and have learned that we have to eat right and exercise to keep healthy. We don’t all achieve that perfectly, but we know we should and we keep trying. Hair color, cosmetic procedures, lotions and potions are not only just for women anymore. We have learned about sunscreen and the skin damage and cancer risk of unprotected skin. Sunscreen keeps wrinkles at bay and helps to maintain a youthful appearance. We have had much better education about the risks of smoking and rates of smoking continue to decline, improving our appearance.

Through the 1970s people in their 50s still dressed and acted and felt old. Now it is easy to be stylish at the age of 50. We may not wear short shorts, or bikinis, or midriff baring clothes, but with even a little effort we can look attractive and sexy despite bodies that are not rock hard and full of unlimited energy. Not Your Daughter’s Jeans became a top selling brand catering to mature women with figures that were not the same as their teenagers, but who still wanted to look hip and fashionable.

Self Knowledge Is Key

Life has a good way of teaching us what makes sense for us. With experience we get better at avoiding mistakes, saying the wrong thing, making friends with the wrong people. We may have tried drugs are used too much alcohol when younger, but work and family obligations tend to temper that kind of over-indulgence by 50. Keep Reading...

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With greater self awareness, we get better at stepping away from people and situations that don’t work well for us. Even the most reserved among us get better at speaking up about what we want. If we are in long term relationships, we have worked out ways to get along and be happy. If we weren’t happy, we have moved on and are more certain what we want from people the next time around. The wide availability and increasing acceptance of internet dating for mature people, makes being single at 50 a much less lonely possibility.

With age does come wisdom. Unless we are incredibly obstinate there is no better teacher than time and experience. What we don’t figure out the first time, we finally get when it hits us in the head multiple times. Most of us get better at figuring out what’s more important in life, when to keep our peace or our tongue and when to fight for something really important. By 50, we learn better which situations or people to avoid and when to grab for it when it’s something that we really want. The insecurity and indecisiveness of our 20s and 30s is replaced by true confidence.

Go For It

So take advantage of this great decade. Reach for that job you now know you can really do well. End the relationships that drag you down and value the people that truly enhance your life. Seek experiences that excite you and broaden your perspective. Stop going to events and occasions that never meant a lot to you. Get better at saying no and more excited about saying yes. Prioritize health goals—stop smoking, get fit, lose the extra weight and develop better eating habits before real age or disease has a chance to set in.

Use the self-knowledge, experience and wisdom you’ve acquired, the setbacks and disappointments as well as the successes and joys you’ve lived to make the 50s a wonderful time of life.