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Love Yourself So Others Can Love You

Love Yourself So Others Can Love You

If you truly love yourself, then other people will love you. This article is going to show you five steps that you can take to love yourself and inspire men to love you.

Step # 1: Think Good Things about Yourself

It is your attitude about yourself that everyone will adopt. You determine how others think about you, how they feel about you and how they treat you. You must love and respect yourself if you want other people to love and respect you. Focus on all the wonderful, positive qualities that are in you. Deliberately shape your thoughts about yourself by using affirmations or a journaling technique. How you think about yourself determines how you feel about yourself.

Step # 2: Feel Good About Yourself

Do whatever you can to feel good about yourself. When you feel good and you are happy, you radiate a light that shines and naturally attracts other people. Your feelings create that “vibe” or the energy that you put out into the universe which determines the kind of people you attract to yourself and how they feel about you. The very instant you shift how you feel about yourself is the instant that you shift your relationship reality and this will change how other people see you and how they treat you. Any woman can learn to feel good about herself and become magnetically attractive. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself.

Step 3: Encourage Yourself

This is about how you talk to yourself. Tell yourself the same positive encouraging, supportive things that you would tell your best friend. Be your own best friend. Tell yourself all the reasons why you can do something or why you do deserve something. Be gentle to yourself if things don’t go exactly as planned. Tell yourself everything is going to be Okay. Learn to flow with life, secure in the knowledge that life is unfolding in a step by step way and that everything really is going to work out better than you can even possibly imagine!

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Step 4: Choose to Be Happy

Being happy is a choice and we are all responsible for our own happiness. Get in the habit of treating yourself regularly and fully enjoy the time you spend with yourself. Learn to really enjoy your own company and do this on a regular basis whether you are in a relationship or not. How much you enjoy yourself will determine how much other people enjoy time with you. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else.

Step 5: Make a Commitment to Yourself

Finally, make a firm commitment to love yourself, no matter what. This is going to mean that you are going to always be there to protect yourself. This means you can trust yourself. This means that you will walk away from a relationship if you know in your heart that you deserve something better. You will always be secure in the knowledge that you can count on yourself to take care of you!

I hope you can see that the true first step to being happy in love is loving yourself.

Dr Kelley Chappell, PhD is the author of Happy in Love: A Woman's Step by Step Guide to Love, Attraction, Dating and Relationships. She is an International Speaker and a Dating and Relationship Coach for Women 

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This article was originally published at Happy In Love. Reprinted with permission from the author.