Open Does Not Mean Vulnerable

Emotional openness is the key to connection.


Jane was dating two men at once and having trouble deciding who to choose. She listed all of John's wonderful qualities and all of Steven’s wonderful qualities and remarked, "If I could just put the two of them together I'd have the perfect man." When asked why she didn't just date one man who had everything, she said she was keeping one man as a backup because she didn't feel safe with either one of them. Puzzled, I asked, "Why would you date, let alone marry, anyone you didn't feel safe with? Clearly, you'll never marry either of these men." Jane simply looked astonished.


Love is a beautiful thing. We all need to love and be loved. Sadly, many of us have been hurt by the people we love and who are supposed to love us. When that happens, we no longer feel safe, and we shut down the ability to give and receive love. The tragedy is that we can no longer feel loved or experience ourselves as loving beings. We no longer experience the nourishing flow of warm golden buttery energy that uplifts the heart/soul, connects us all, and soothes all pain. And everyone else we could be loving is robbed.

According to the dictionary, the word "vulnerable" means open to attack. When someone says, "I'm afraid to be vulnerable" he/she should be afraid to be vulnerable, but he/she should not be afraid to be emotionally open, emotionally present, or emotionally close. Opening to give and receive love should not make one vulnerable.


So what to do about it? With HBLU we acknowledge the fear and heal the traumas, dysfunctional family system and cultural brainwashing patterns that caused it. This allows people to reach out with their hearts and share one of the greatest gifts in life.

If you or anyone you know would like to open your heart to love, get happily married, or improve your marriage or other relationships, HBLU methodology can help you. To schedule an appointment, order CDs and DVDs, or find out how HBLU can help you personally, please call 781-444-6940, email, or go to 

To learn more about healthy relationships and what kind of unconscious patterns sabotage them, order our CD "Find and Keep Your Ideal Mate and Love Phobia."

Dr. Swack and her associates work with people in person, by phone or skype. Healing from the Body Level Up, Inc. is located in Needham, MA.


Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU) is an innovative, rapid, and powerful new mind/body/spirit healing methodology developed by Judith A. Swack, Ph.D., a Biochemist/Immunologist, Master NLP Practitioner, Mind/Body Healer, and leader in the field of Energy Psychology.  HBLU integrates biomedical science, psychology, hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming, applied kinesiology, spirituality and Energy Psychology techniques with original research on the structure of complex damage patterns.  HBLU is so effective because:
1. The client's deepest wisdom guides the healing,
2. It has menus of well characterized patterns and effective healing techniques,
3. It clears blocks to success at the conscious, unconscious, body, and soul levels.

HBLU helps people rapidly achieve the results they want to live full, happy, healthy, and satisfying lives. Maybe it can help you, too. and. Visit our website at

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