Sit Still And Be Quiet--In Order To Connect With Spirit

Man Taking A Time Out To Quiet Mind and Body

If you've been reading my articles here at YourTango, you're starting to get the idea that love has no barriers — it transcends time, space and alternate dimensions. Just knowing this truth is your first step to creating your own state of receptivity.

But that's not all that's required to send and receive spirit communications. In a nutshell, the ability to communicate with spirit is a two-pronged process. To begin, you must turn your entire being into a receiver that is in tune with the communications that are being sent to you.


But a receiver in the full “on” position isn’t enough. All of your sensory organs must also be acutely attuned so that you can see, hear, smell, taste, and feel these communications.

The best way to attune all your senses to receive spirit is to create what I call "pockets of peace."  

I discovered this requirement as soon as I returned from Italy without my love, Jean. Within the first week, I was guided to turn off my television and every other electronic device. Without consciously realizing it, I was being advised to sit in silence so that I could hear Jean.

One night Jean implanted this thought in my head: My little darling, don't be afraid of being alone in the dark. It is in the silence that you will hear my voice. The conversation and the noise of the day drown out my voice. Any time you want to talk to me, come to the bed, be still, and you will hear me. It is in the quiet that we will always unite.


The morning after this communication, I spoke with a devout Catholic friend. I told her that Jean told me about seeking silence in order to hear him. She then quoted for me what the Bible says: "Be still and know that I am God."

It was by living in silence that I was in a nearly constant state of meditation. And, of course, a primary purpose of meditation is to be one with God and spirit by turning off (or at least quieting) the conscious part of the mind. The more you are still and quiet, the more in touch you will be with spirit.

Since I tend to do everything to the extreme, I adopted the practice of being very still and quiet during every moment I wasn't working with patients. Now I'm not saying that you have to convert your condo into a convent. Just cultivate your own "pockets of peace" moments in which you tune out the world and dial down your conscious mind. When your conscious mind is quiet, your brain is able to perceive what it cannot hear during the daily humdrum of ordinary activity. In this state, you are supremely open to spirit and God. In this state, you can soar beyond your earthly body, travel to alternate dimensions, and unite with beings in the spirit realm. (You may have heard this phenomenon referred to as an out of body experience or OBE.)

I know this is easier said than done because our Western lifestyle rarely supports a state of stillness. We're all overworked, always rushing somewhere, and never seem to find physical stillness until we sleep at night — and even then many of us toss and turn fitfully as a result of the day's stress.


Additional Techniques for Turning Up Your Spiritual Receiver  

In addition to creating more silence in your life, internal cleansing, fasting, and heating the body with saunas and fevers also help to open us up. While nobody relishes being sick, it's widely known in the alternative health community that fevers are to be welcomed and embraced for their cleansing and healing abilities. I have even heard of cases in which people are spontaneously cured of cancer by one incident of high fever. The point is, if you’re "lucky" enough to come down with a fever, allow the body to ride it out rather than trying to suppress it using over-the-counter medicines. Of course, do seek medical attention for especially high or prolonged fevers, or as necessary to be safe, depending on the individual situation.

You also want to avoid pharmaceutical mood altering drugs, if possible. In Love Never Dies, I speak about the shameful way our Western society and medical establishment handles the grieving process. As I explain, if people haven’t "snapped out of it" in a few months, doctors are quick to prescribe antidepressants. I want you to know that while grief may mimic the symptoms of depression, the two are not the same thing. So I want you to beware of taking such drugs because they will blunt your capacity to be open to your feelings and senses. The numbing effect of these medications can interfere with your receptivity.

Moreover, as I've observed in many patients with whom I've shared my new Trans-Dimensional Grief Therapy method, the process of reconnecting has the power to lift sadness in ways that drugs can't begin to address. So beware of taking drugs unless absolutely necessary. (Of course, it’s important to first discuss discontinuing any medication with your doctor rather than stopping cold turkey, and those suffering from depression should definitely seek treatment.)


In Love Never Dies, I provide complete instructions and guidelines for meditation and other peaceful practices that will turn your receiver to the full on position. In addition to teaching you how to cultivate the ability to be truly still and quiet, I share five other methods for heightening your receptivity to spirit. These include:

  1. Surrendering to all your emotional states
  2. Entering a trance by bypassing your conscious mind through meditation, progressive relaxation, self-hypnosis, prayer, yoga, Tai Chi, Chi Gong, and/or deep-breathing
  3. Taking advantage of hypnagogic (twilight) states
  4. Using nature
Cultivating heightened awareness (I share various exercises for awakening your sensory and psychic abilities)

All these simple techniques will help you to clear your mind and empty your vessel so you can easily receive signs, messages, and the eternal love that spirit holds for you.

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