Women Attracted To Illusive Men Must Learn Smart Heart Skills In

80 percent of men are Distancers and 80 percent of women are Pursuers


A recent study proves that women are more attracted to men who are unsure about them. Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, author of NY Times about.com Best Dating Book of 2010 Make Up Don't Break Up explains that women don't see illusiveness as a red flag because they think men are wired that way. "80 percent of men are Distancers, and 80 percent of women are Pursuers. So women think they can bridge the gap by their nurturing nature. However, tools are needed for women to skillfully create emotional intimacy and be the guardians of connection. I teach these skills through the Smart Heart Dialogue tools in my book Make Up Don't Break Up," explains Dr. Bonnie


New York, NY (PRWEB) March 25, 2011

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD supports and explains the theory cited in a recent study that uncertainty could increase a woman’s romantic attraction towards men (http://www.upi.com/Health_News/2011/02/07/Woman-most-attracted-to-man-if-shes-unsure/UPI-68001297136087/). The study published in Psychological Science based on an experiment conducted with college undergraduates found that the women who found the men most attractive were those who weren’t sure how much the men liked them.

“Women are attracted to illusive men, not because they are masochistic, but because women know from experience that men are more distant. There is an allure to a more mysterious man,” explains Dr. Bonnie, author of the NY Times about.com best dating book of 2010 Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying in Love. However, without the right skills women pursuing illusive men can easily trigger them into becoming vanishing men.


“Women are the guardians of connection, and are used to bridging the gap between their distancing men. 80 percent of men are Distancers and 80 percent of women are Pursuers. Since women are more wired for emotional connections, they are more adept to become the guardians of connection. However skills are needed, and most couples don’t have the tools. I teach Smart Heart Skills in my book Make Up Don’t Break Up that helps women create emotional intimacy in their relationships,” says Dr. Bonnie, who adds that trying to connect and communicate without using Smart Heart Skills can push men further away—ending the relationship before it starts, and cause detrimental power struggles.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), NY Times About.com Best Dating Book of 2010 Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary "Infidelity" and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.

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