Anxiety Issues, Attachment Issues, Blended Family Issues, Change Management, Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues, Dating/Being Single Support, Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Empowering Men, Empowering Women, Engagement, Family Support, Forgiveness, Grief, Loss, & Bereavement, Happiness, Infidelity / Affair Recovery, Marriage, Online Dating, Relationships, Social Anxiety



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Counselor/Therapist, Marriage/Couples Counselor, Psychotherapist, Relationship Coach, Speaker/Presenter

About Diane Strachowski, Ed.D

Hi, I'm Diane Strachowski, a licensed psychologist my clients call me "Doctor Diane." I am a dating and relationship expert, author and researcher with more than 20 years of clinical experience. I write about dating and relationships and give my followers tips on how to find more love. 

I have an undergraduate degree in Psychology from the University of Illinois, a Masters Degree in Counseling from Santa Clara and I received my doctorate from the University of San Francisco. I did my post-doctoral fellowship at Stanford where I learned how to do clinical research.  

I have two passions; working with singles and with couples. Whether you are either new to dating and don't know where to start or you are frustrated because dating is confusing I help my clients crack the code on what it is that is the problem and more importantly how to fix it. I help singles understand themselves and learn how to navigate modern dating. I have helped hundreds of my clients find love and create successful long-term relationships. 

I also am a couples therapist, I help couples many who come to therapy as a last-ditch effort to save their relationship. They feel like they have fallen out of love or who have conflict and want to get back to love, back to a time when they were happier and had more fun. 

I have created my own style of therapy called 'Securology.' My unique formula uses two scientifically proven theories; Attachment Theory and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy -CBT.  I use Attachment theory to understand how you learned to love and help you determine what I call your 'Love Style' and then I use CBT to help you to re-frame what you think about dating and relationships.  

Do you know what your Love Style is? Did you know that there are seven different ways that you love? I have developed my own Love Style quiz available on my website. Your Love Style is made up of two things: 1. Your Attachment Style and 2. Your Communication Style. Once you know your Love Style then you can better understand your patterns in your relationships. Your Love Style determines your traits, what you need and want in a relationship and which spirit animal best describes you.

Depending on which one of seven different Love Styles I have categorized you will need to improve certain aspects of yourself. Love is not a one size fits all, nor is the solution. Once I determine which Love Style you are then I can prescribe which things you will need to work on. If you are anxious, a person who is a 'Loyal Supporter' or an 'Expressive Giver' you will need techniques for calming down and seeking less validation and reassurance. You will need to think more rationally and less emotionally. If however, you are a 'Hesitant Romantic' or a 'Renaissance Lover' you will need to work on speaking up, being more vulnerable and learning how to express your feelings with your partner.

Work with me and:

  • Learn how you first learned to love before you were age two.
  • Understand how your nervous system and your brain are wired for love in a very specific way.
  • Figure out what you really need and want in your love relationships.
  • Get a deeper understanding of why you are attracted to certain people and how this might be holding you back.
  • Learn to apply Doctor Diane's Securology Method to help you become more secure in love.
  • I help you and your partner understand each other better and how to communicate more effectively. 
  • Learn techniques for managing your negative emotions
  • Design a plan for the single person to stay focused and active in their search for love
  • Give couples real-time feedback and techniques for deepening their relationships 

Ask me about my FREE QUIZ (http://secureinlove.com/quiz/) You can connect with me on my website.

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