What If Your Man Wants To Introduce Cuckolding Into Your Relationship?

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As a sex therapist and relationship counselor, I see men and couples who come to me for advice on cuckolding in their marriage. Once in awhile, I will counsel a couple who wants to explore the cuckolding together. Typically, though, the man is wanting his wife to try the cuckolding but does not know how to approach her.

Cuckolding involves another man in the marriage that the husband wants his wife to have sex with in front of him.


The husband derives much satisfaction from watching his wife have sex with another man who, typically, will have a larger-than-average size penis.

Another aspect in cuckolding is the husband needing to be shamed by his wife. One way to do this is for her to compare penis size and let her husband know that his penis is just too small to please her.

Other forms of shaming can go along with the cuckolding as well, depending on the scope of the cuckolding session. Some men like to be tied to a chair and forced to watch, and not allowed to touch themselves while the kinky scenario plays out in front of them. A wife may also spank her husband as a form of deeper humiliation and domination.

Most wives, if married for a long time, are not going to be willing to partake in the cuckolding lifestyle.

Some women may be more open to it than others, but the majority will not. Husbands have asked about having a man waiting in the room for his wife as a surprise, but the answer is strong "no" — not a good idea.

I advise my male clients who are into the whole cuckolding fantasy is to tell their wives slowly and see what her reaction is. Some women are more open to the idea of cuckolding than others, and unless it is approached in the right manner, one will never know. If all else fails, call a sex counselor and do individual counseling or couples counseling.

The fact is that once a man is interested in this form of a fetish, it is hard to stop him from thinking about it and wanting to act on it!

This article was originally published at The Happy Spouse. Reprinted with permission from the author.