13 Reasons Why Women Fake Orgasms

13 Reasons Why Women Fake Orgasms
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I hear a lot about women who fake orgasms, especially from men who worry that their ladies might be among those who would rather put him on than get off.

Now, I feel similarly to you guys. I don’t think a woman should fake an orgasm. I’m a big advocate of letting go and really getting off. But there are some surprising reasons that many women fake orgasm. Check out this list I compiled from interviewing customers over the years and see if one of them sounds like something you can fix in your own love life: 

1. She may be bored. The stimulation her partner gives her is doing nothing for her.

2. She’s having a one night stand and prefers to get it over with.

3. The relationship is brand new and she’s not yet comfortable enough to let go in front of her partner.

4. She really just wants it to be over because she has somewhere else to be/something else to do.

5. She wants her lover to feel like he’s doing a great job even if he’s not quite getting her there.

6. The act of climaxing is taking too long and her patience is wearing thin.

7. She’s just not that into him.

8. She may have faked it at the start of the relationship, and that came back to bite her because her lover repeats those actions thinking they work for her.

9. She’s taking anti-depressants or drinking alcohol. Certain drugs will often interfere with her ability to lubricate and make it difficult for her to orgasm. 

10. She may only be able to get off with a vibrator and be afraid that her partner will feel inadequate if she brings a sex toy into the bedroom.

11. She may not know how to tell her partner what she needs.

12. She may have never experienced an orgasm and therefore does not know what she’s missing.

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13. She may feel horrible about her body, which distracts her from pleasurable sensations that could lead to orgasm.

But the real problem with every single item in the above list boils down to one thing: communication. Without it, your sex life will fall apart. Communicating can easily make your sex life smokin’ hot, and as my friend Emily Morse of www.SexWithEmily.com says, "Communication is Lubrication."

When these women opened up to me, part of me was sad. Every woman should be able to experience the kind of pleasure that sex can provide. The other part of me was inspired. Shortly after I compiled all these answers, I started my mission to help women stop faking it and just have one.

For those women who have difficulty climaxing or who have never experienced an orgasm, I’ve been explaining that using a small silver bullet vibe on the clitoris during the act can help most women get off almost every single time.  

What do you think about this list? Is there a reason I’m missing? Have you banished fake orgasms from your bedroom? Please share your thoughts in the comments!

More about me: I am the owner of an online romance store www.BlissConnection.com and have been selling sex toys and lingerie for the last 10 years. I just opened a brand new plus size lingerie store in San Jose called Curvy Girl Lingerie. We focus on plus size lingerie and helping women to get in touch with all of the pleasure your body is capable of!