facebook

6 Ways To Turn An 'OK' Relationship Into An Unbelievable One

Photo: getty
happy marriage
Love

Keep the spark, the connection, and the sensuality in your relationship.

Having a happy marriage is challenging enough without dealing with every day minutia. Everyone can use a tip or two to keep things fresh, alive, passionate, and connected, and now is no different.

Instead of relying on your family and friends to fill your head with ideas, there's plenty of marriage advice to go around and actually help you change your relationship for the better. And after connecting with thousands of men and women, here's how to have a healthy relationship that is vibrant and will make your marriage last forever.


RELATED: 17 Easy Ways To Become A Better Husband For Your Wife Every Day (& Improve Your Marriage In The Process)


1. Don't give up the newness of your relationship.

As relationships mature, couples tend to forget that they are men and women first, and spouses/significant others second. Effort is required to keep things fresh. Never lose sight of the fact that as a relationship grows, you are left with a friendship. So, start out as friends and stay friends even after you become lovers. 

2. Recognize that you aren't able to change the other person.

So often, people try to mold or change their significant others into what they wish or want them to be. That approach is destined for failure. You can't change anyone... they have to want to change and grow themselves. You can only control how you act or react to any issues that they present.

3. Make sure they earn your respect and long-term love.

Far too often, once the courtship phase concludes, men drop back from putting in as much effort — and women allow it. To counter this, men need to keep their effort level high, and women need to not allow a man's halfway effort to serve as acceptable.


RELATED: Happily Married Men Reveal 21 Secrets For A Happy Marriage


4. Keep your strength, individuality, and self-esteem upfront.

A relationship is made up of two people, and those people have their own wants and needs — both inside and outside of the relationship. It's critical to keep their own interests and wants top-of-mind. Compromise might be good in a relationship, but not when you compromise who you are and what you really want out of your life.

5. Don't settle for second best.

If the other person in your relationship refuses to grow with you or address what you both need, don't settle. Life is far too short. You should be with someone that enjoys you and treats you as a treasure, not as an obligation or duty.

6. Aim for great intimacy.

Sex isn't just the physical act — it's closeness and trust. It's the personification of passion and sharing. It can be as romantic or as passionate or as bondage-infused as the couple wants.

Sharing one's physical self with the other is critical in a happy marriage (although there are exceptions, of course). Being open, vulnerable, and trusting is an important component of a healthy intimate life. Don't let passion drift away. Remember that passion exists outside of the bedroom. 


RELATED: How You Can Side-Step The Most Common Marriage Problems (& Be One Of Those Blissfully Married Couples)


Charles J. Orlando is a bestselling author and relationship/interpersonal relations expert who has spent the last 10+ years connecting with tens of thousands of people. Charles has built a massive following on Facebook where he offers free, street-smart love advice to men and women around the world.

Author
Expert