5 Ways To Be A Loving & Efficient Parent, Even While You're Dealing With Depression

Parenting is hard — but when you add depression to the mix, figuring out how to be a good parent feels even harder.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), depression is one of the most common mental health issues in the U.S.

If you are dealing with depression, know that you are not alone. It is estimated that 1 in 10 Americans struggle with depression at some point in their lives.

If you are a mother, it is important to recognize that women have higher rates of depression and are twice as likely to struggle with depression symptoms compared to men of the same age.

In addition, approximately one in ten women are likely to suffer from depression after having a baby.

Although the causes of depression vary, stressors such as unemployment and divorce are also likely to increase the risk.

So, if you are struggling and wondering to yourself, "Am I depressed?", it may be helpful for you to seek additional information on how to deal with depression and its treatments.

Despite your depression, you can still be a good parent by taking these 5 effective steps.

1. Seek professional help

Many parents who see the signs of depression taking over their daily life often reach out for help in order to remain a competent parent when it comes to their children and their work.

However, it is estimated that 80 percent of those suffering from depression may not be receiving any effective or specific treatment.

Consulting with a psychologist and a psychiatrist is probably your most powerful tool to decrease your symptoms of depression in an effective and quick way.

The research suggests that a combination of cognitive-behavioral therapy and medication is perhaps the most beneficial course of treatment for depression.

Treating the depression directly is likely to help your children in the short and long run and is a central piece of continuing to be a great parent.

2. Ask for support from family and friends

It takes a village to raise a child. In moments of great vulnerability, including fatigue, lack of motivation, sleep difficulties, negative thoughts, and other symptoms of depression, parents may struggle to be fully present and active with their children.

Reaching out to family members, other parents from the school community, friends, and colleagues for assistance in the hectic day-to-day lives of your children can relieve stress and disappointment, not just for you, but also for your children.

Assistance with transportation, meals, play-dates, sleepovers, homework, and extracurricular activities will keep your children engaged, attended to, and happy.

A great parent knows when to ask for support in the best interest of their children.

3. Hire help if you can

In the throes of depression, it may be very difficult to have the energy and motivation to go to work, perform well, transport the kids, take care of the house chores, or even cook.

With depression, it may suddenly become too much to juggle successfully and smoothly. Breakfasts may disappear and meals may turn to snacks, grazing, and frozen dinners.

Laundry may pile up and the house may turn into a mess. The kids may be late to school and extracurricular activities and may even begin to skip some days.

If the depression is severe enough and you are noticing the above, hiring help (if you can afford it) allows the house to run smoothly while you are treating the depression. Although it is a luxury, it may be essential for a short time, until you get back your energy and motivation.

Keeping the home foundation solid for your children — and providing them with consistency in terms of meals, transportation, pick and drop, attendance, and bedtime — can serve as an enormous buffer for your children.

This is because their lives remain stable and secure, and this protects them from the ups and downs of your struggles, which is exactly what children need from good parents.

4. Enroll your children in fun and physically active extracurricular classes

When one is suffering from sleep difficulties, fatigue, and lethargy associated with depression, it may be difficult to find the energy to be active with children.

Engaging in swimming, running, basketball, trampoline, or soccer may seem daunting to the depressed parent.

But, enrolling your children in after-school or weekend sports is an excellent way to ensure that your children are remaining physically active, healthy, and engaged in positive ways, which is essential for their ongoing healthy development.

5. Stay connected to your children through play

Even with low energy, poor sleep, and limited motivation, there are ways to stay connected to your children while coping with depression. Staying positive and present with your children is key to facilitating their development.

There are many simple activities that you can engage in with your children on a daily basis that don’t take up too much planning or energy, but allow your children to feel tended to, loved, connected, and stable.