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40 Of The Best Ways To Meet Someone (When You're Looking For Love Over 40)

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It's not too late to find love.

Tired of doing the same old things and going to the same places to meet men? Then it's time you tried something new and made dating over 40 more fun.

Maybe you’ve had it with online dating and the apps and you wish you could meet someone the old-fashioned way — organically. Or, maybe you’re stuck in habits or comfortable ruts where you always choose similar activities.

But when you have new experiences, you create opportunities to meet new guys, which is why trying out the best places to meet men is a smart idea. Who knows, maybe you'll cross paths with that someone special you’ve been dreaming of for so long. And the best part is you'll be sure to have fun in the process.


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With the warmer months upon us, now is the time to kickstart your dating life! Take advantage of the spring and summer season, and try at least two of these activities below each month. 

Here are 40 of the best places to meet men over 40:

1. Boat shows

They say the older the man, the bigger his toys are. These first four suggestions center around big-ticket toys that attract men. If you like the water, check out a boat show where you can board cabin cruisers and catamarans to see how the other half lives.

2. Cruise night

Fast food restaurants and diners have Cruise Night in good weather. Owners of antique and classic cars gather to display their vehicles and talk shop. Plenty of men will be there!

3. Car shows 

Some shows feature new cars and old. Walk the floor, be curious and friendly. Sit in the vehicles and flirt with the salesmen.

4. Motorcycle rallies 

If you like to ride, a motorcycle rally could be ideal. Meet local bikers – today many are successful professionals and businessmen who want to play on the weekends and recapture the feelings of youth.

5. Sing karaoke

Men and women enjoy singing karaoke and performing in a low-pressure environment. It's fun and you don’t have to sing to enjoy.

6. Farm league baseball

Major league games are great but often a little pricey. Attending local farm team games is easy, less expensive and great fun. Don't just sit in the stands; walk around to see who you might meet.

7. Horseback riding

You never know who might want to gallop on the same day as you. Grab the reins and go!

8. Soccer games

Not all areas have soccer teams, but where they are, people will gather. Men love soccer so, becoming even a part-time fan could help you meet men.

9. Street festivals

Many cities have all sorts of summer festivals with food vendors, crafts, music and more. Put on a great outfit, smile and be friendly. It's so easy to strike up a conversation at these events since there is so much going on to talk about.

10. Outdoor concerts

Many communities provide outdoor concerts during the summer months. Bring a picnic and a bottle of wine and talk to the people sitting nearby as you enjoy the music.

11. Outdoor bars

Listening to live music at a patio bar is an easy way to meet new people. Get up and dance, walk around and make sure you talk to strangers. They are friends you haven’t met yet.

12. History re-enactments

Fife and Drum parades and battle enactments draw men like crazy. If you have any interest in history, get yourself to one of these events to meet intelligent history fans.

13. Parades

Who doesn't love a parade? Whether it's Memorial Day, Fourth of July or Labor Day, you've got three great shots at meeting men while watching street performers, firemen, and marching bands go by.

14. Fireworks

There's something exciting and romantic about fireworks and you can be sure somewhere in your area, there will be a display on or around the Fourth of July. Get there early, before dark so you have a chance to talk to new men.

15. Walk the beach

Stroll along the shoreline of the ocean or a big lake and enjoy the soothing effects of being near the water. Pick up shells or interesting rocks and say hello to a few men. If there’s a boardwalk, even better because there will be more people. Smile, look up and be friendly.

16. Walking trails

Take a walk on the countless trails provided by state and local parks, and even better bring your dog. Dog owners are very friendly, and your pup is a fabulous ice breaker.

17. Bike with a group

Whether you choose a Meetup.com group or some other local group, you’ll find people who enjoy an organized bike ride. Some are road tours and others follow trails, but either way men will be riding by your side.

18. Kayak with a group

Again, you can find local groups who enjoy kayaking together. Some will even rent kayaks as well. It's great exercise, paddling slowly near the beauty of nature or sights at the water's edge.

19. Beer tasting

Now here's a surefire place to meet men — beer tastings or festivals! Local breweries are popping up all over and attract throngs of people who are not necessarily big drinkers but, like to share a beer with friends.

20. Walk for charity

Pick a charity and I bet there’s a fundraiser walk scheduled in your area. It doesn't take a lot of time and if you don’t want to hit up people for donations, make a small donation yourself. It's OK to simply enjoy the walk and opportunity to meet new people.


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21. Learn to shoot

Take lessons and learn to skeet shoot. Once you do, you can also practice on weekends or evenings, giving you even more opportunities to meet men.

22. Hit a bucket of balls

If you are a golfer or a hacker, a little practice at the range will be good for you. Improve your swing and meet a few men at the same time.

23. Antique shows

Men might not be interested in old dishes or jewelry, but they stack up around vintage tools, oil cans, and farm equipment. Don't forget to chat up the vendors too — you never know who will lead you to “the One.”

24. Flea markets

Same thing is true for flea markets. Some people love to walk around and look, while others are more serious collectors. Either way, you can meet new people.

25. Bourbon tasting

Trying new bourbons is very popular and so is Tequila. Test your pallet and see what you like, then talk about it with other participants. Easy and fun!

26. Winery tour

Even in the tiny state of Connecticut, there is a wine trail with local vineyards who graciously open their doors for summer tastings. Grab some crackers and cheese and try a Pino or Chardonnay. Strike up a conversation to find out what other people are drinking, and ask what they recommend.

27. Coffee shops with outdoor seating

Get a cold beverage to cool off and park yourself outside while you sip and chat with others enjoying a bit of a break.

28. Volunteer for Habitat for Humanity

Habitat for Humanity builds homes for the less fortunate. Where there are hammers and nails, there are always men! Check in your area — there may be other charities who do the same kind of thing.

29. Historical landmarks

Be a tourist in your own area and visit the historical landmarks. Often you can take a guided tour with others to learn about the place and its background and discuss the details of what happened there.

30. Farmers’ market

Pick up some fresh veggies, baked goods and listen to live music while you walk around the market. Engage with vendors and other folks at the market who are like-minded in support of local farmers.

31. Salsa lessons

Put on a dress that looks good when you twirl and try salsa dancing. You’ll have lots of fun and dance with a partner. Even if he’s not interested or available, dancing is a blast.

32. Art festivals

Take in an art show and talk to the artists. Stop and get something to eat, giving you a chance to speak to other attendees and find out which artists were their favorites.

33. Craft shows 

Towns organize arts and crafts shows which feature beautiful, handmade goods. Look up and say hello to the men who walk by, so you don’t forget to notice them, too!

34. Play Bocce Ball

Some town recreation areas have a Bocce Ball court. This game originated in Italy with roots in ancient Rome, involves tossing a ball close to markers to earn points. You’ll be outdoors and free to talk to people as they wait their turn or walk by.

35. Attend a lecture

Many libraries or learning centers offer a summer series of lectures with topics from history, to gardening and politics.

36. Friend’s BBQ

Don’t miss a single barbeque! Nearly 30% of couples meet through friends and family. Ask the host or hostess to think of a few singles to invite so you don’t feel like the odd person out and meet their friends. Or get some friends together and throw your own — every woman must bring something to eat and one single guy.

37. Play tennis

Whether you play on the town courts or at a club, there are often organized Friday night “Round Robins” where people are matched up to play doubles. If you play several weeks in a row, it will make it that much easier to get to know the players and build friendships.

38. Boat rides

If you live near a river, the ocean or a lake, chances are there is a boat ride you can take. Some areas have “booze cruises” with live music and cruise out at sunset for a few hours on the water.

39. Volunteer at a marathon

Lots of people run marathons which means they need tons of volunteers at water stations, registration, and start and finish lines. Even if you don’t meet any runners, you'll have a chance to talk with other volunteers.

40. Ethnic festivals

Your area might have several ethnic-related festivals often sponsored by local churches. I've seen Greek Festivals, Italian festivals, Irish festivals and many more. Take your pick — they are all fun!

With so many ways to meet single men, dating over 40 doesn't have to feel like a chore. You've just got to be able to expand your social circle. 

If you need additional motivation, set a goal of how many men you'll talk to each week. Then keep track of your efforts. This is a great way to build evidence that you ARE meeting new people and getting somewhere on your journey to find love.

The more people you meet, the better your chances of finding a good match.


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Ronnie Ann Ryan is a dating coach for women over forty who has helped successful single gals find love for over fifteen years. Ready to stop wasting precious time on dating mistakes that keep you single? Listen to her free audio program 12 First Date Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances for Love.