Just Because Our Relationship Ended, Doesn't Mean I Don't Wish You Well

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By Tylia Flores

Two years ago, I decided to end my five-year relationship with my high school sweetheart. While it broke my heart, I knew it was best for me and him to go our separate ways.

Since then, my ex-boyfriend has moved on and is now in a new relationship.

Now, you may believe it or not, but I’m actually happy for him.

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I’m happy for the progress he has made ever since we broke up, and I’m thrilled to see him grow and move on.

See, I’ve learned that learning from your mistakes is part of life. Growing and understanding that people make mistakes in relationships doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a bad person.

Everybody makes mistakes, and that’s OK.

I’m so happy that my ex has found a woman who loves him for who he is, with all his flaws.

I’m glad she understands him fully and accepts all there is about him.

I love that he can find someone who makes him shine and lets his abilities come through.

I’m happy that he has someone who helps him glow every day in ways that I couldn’t.

I also love the fact he learned from the mistakes he made during our time together and not only changed for the better but grew from it.

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That’s how every life experience goes — you accept your actions, learn from them, and move on. We’ve all been there.

There’s always going to be a special place in my heart for my ex-boyfriend.

I don’t wish anything bad on him. All I want for him is to be happy and achieve everything he desires.

I want him to have a wonderful woman in his life with whom he has fallen in love because he deserves love just like everyone else does.

I’m so happy that my ex-boyfriend found someone who loves the same way, and they can share their emotions and feelings.

Everyone’s version of love is unique and beautiful in its own way. And it should be appreciated.

I’m happy that he was able to find that person who showed him a second chance at love does exist despite the obstacles he faced with me in the five years that we were together.

I’m happy that he has taken our past experiences and turned them into powerful life lessons. Through that, he’s much happier now than he has ever been with me.

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And I’m happy about that; we weren’t a forever match.

Seeing someone you love happy is the best thing you can ask for.

If you’ve known someone for years, all you should want for them is happiness, success, and health. After all, you loved them once, and a part of you still does.

I share thousands of memories with my ex, and I’ve learned a lot during our time together.

Those experiences will forever be part of my life story, and they’re something I’m eternally grateful to him.

Being happy for someone shows a significant amount of love, regardless of how things have ended.

At the end of the day, just because it didn’t work out between us doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t wish him well.

The best thing I can do for my heart is to be happy and close this chapter of my life. After all, that’s the only way to start a new one.

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Tylia Flores is a writer who focuses on relationships, entertainment news, and love topics. Visit her author profile on Unwritten for more.

This article was originally published at Unwritten. Reprinted with permission from the author.