26 Ways To Sincerely Apologize To Your Boyfriend After A Big Fight

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Knowing we hurt a loved one is the worst feeling ever. Such a realization brings about uncomfortable emotions like shame, regret, and even fear as we worry about the status of our relationship. 

But if you've recently fought with your partner, it's important to put any defensive feelings aside if you want to sincerely apologize to your boyfriend or girlfriend. 

“After a fight, it is important to take a step back and allow yourself some time to reflect on what happened. Ask yourself, other than the fact that you ended up fighting, what exactly are you sorry for? Were you rude, unfair, defensive?" says Ann Papayoti, a Relationship & Wellness Coach.

"Once you are aware, take ownership of your actions," she explains. "Intended sincere apologies can go wrong if you aren’t committed to taking responsibility for whatever you said or did without making excuses or sourcing blame." 

If you're not sure what to say in an apology to your boyfriend, here are a few examples to get you started.

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1. "I'm sorry. I know that I could've done things differently instead of making a poor decision. I regret acting in that manner and take full responsibility for my actions." 

2. "I wish I could go back in time and change everything, but I know I can't. I regret what I did to hurt you. I want to ask for your forgiveness. I'm so sorry."

3. "I can't say I'd be able to forgive if I were in your shoes... and if I did, it'd take some time. But in the meantime, I sincerely hope you know that I'm sorry. I don't expect you to forgive or trust me any time soon, but I hope we can still work toward reconciliation." 

4. "I love you so much, yet I let my anger get the best of me when I shouldn't have. I'm really sorry for what happened. I'm going to work on my anger problems so it doesn't happen again."

5. "I realize now that I didn't show you any respect or consideration. Instead, I ended up wounding you. I'm so sorry. It won't happen again." 

6.  "I know I hurt your feelings yesterday when I got snappy. You were only trying your best, and I shouldn't have responded in such a manner. I was wrong to treat you like that and I apologize."

7. "I promise you that from now on, I'm going to work on managing my stress so I don't end up taking everything out on you. Please call me out if I ever do this again. I want to do better for you." 

8.  "I'm really sorry for what I said. I know my words hurt you. It's never okay to speak to someone I love and respect like that. Moving forward, I'm going to try thinking before speaking." 

9. “I’m sorry I doubted you. I know you're extremely capable and I shouldn't have invalidated you like that. I value your experience and knowledge.”

10. “You have every right to be frustrated and upset. What I did was hurtful, and I regret it. I'm really sorry.” 

11. “I feel awful about what I did. You are so important to me, and I’m sorry I acted in a manner that suggested otherwise.”

12. “I know that I really messed up this time. I take full responsibility for everything. I hear your pain and frustration, and I'm sorry.” 

13. “I wish I had thought before I acted. I made a big mistake. You didn't deserve to be yelled at like that. I'm so sorry.” 

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14. "Just saying 'sorry' doesn't feel like it's enough. I want to make it up to you. Is there anything I can do?" 

15. "I acted stupidly. I'm sorry. I love you and sincerely want to work on our relationship. Would you be willing to forgive me?"

16. "Even though I thought I had the best intentions in mind, I shouldn't have used such hurtful language. I'm really sorry for talking to you like that." 

17. "I don't expect your forgiveness. I just want to tell you that you didn't deserve to be treated in that manner, and I am sincerely sorry for what happened. I'm learning to do better, but that doesn't excuse my actions." 

18. "I'm so sorry I let you down. I'm going to try my hardest to make sure I'm always there for you moving forward."

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19. "I regret the fight we got into last time. I feel like 'sorry' doesn't cut it, but I genuinely am so sorry for the mean things I said. I love and cherish you, and hope you can forgive me." 

20. "I’m sorry for the pain I caused you. The way I acted was extremely immature and you didn't deserve that. I hope you can forgive me and give me a chance to make things better between us." 

21. "Now that I've taken some time to think about last night, I realize I crossed the line. What I did was awful, and you've got every right to be hurt and offended. I'm truly sorry. I'm going to work on my behavior so that I don't ever lash out like that again."

22. "You're an amazing boyfriend and I love you so much. I feel terrible about letting you down the way I did. If you're willing to forgive me, I promise I'll do better. I'm sorry for what happened." 

23. "I feel terrible about the way I acted toward you. It was uncalled for and extremely rude. I really regret hurting you and want to express how sorry I am. Would you be willing to meet up later to talk about it?"

24. "I'm so sorry for blowing up like that. It's never okay to take it out on you. I promise I'm going to seek professional help so I can learn how to process my frustration appropriately." 

25. "I know I messed up, and I'm sorry for what I said. Whenever you're ready, I'd like to meet up with you face-to-face to listen to everything you have to say. I'm done talking over you."

26. "I can't even find the words to explain how sorry I am for what happened. I feel terrible for making you feel gross and sincerely want to make it up to you. You're extremely important to me and I want to prove it. What can I do to make us OK again?" 

Papayoti adds, "Apologies are always best offered in person so that sincerity isn’t questionable... But if it must be done in text or a call to be timely, communicate that you are sorry for what happened, for what you said or did, and ask to meet up with them so you can talk it through." 

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Yona Dervishi is a writer who is currently working at YourTango as an editorial intern. She covers topics pertaining to news and entertainment.