How To Fall Out Of Love With Someone

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Falling in love can be one of the most beautiful, yet scary, experiences one can go through. When falling for that special someone, it can almost feel magical, and sometimes that love can consume you in the best way possible.

In the same way that there are many reasons people fall in love, there are also reasons people yearn to fall out of love.

Perhaps the relationship is no longer benefiting you in ways that it used to and has become toxic, or you don’t feel valued and respected in the relationship anymore. 

Whatever the reasons may be, it can be difficult to not only realize you need to leave the relationship, but also that you need to do the work to fall out of love with your partner.

But, it is possible to fall out of love, and it’s also possible to do it in a healthy way that won’t leave you feeling broken and helpless.

7 Tips To Help You Fall Out Of Love And Let Go

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1. Take time for yourself.

The best way to get over someone is to realize that you have everything you need within yourself. You’ve lived a full life before them, meaning you can surely live life after them.

Remember the activities and hobbies you used to do, and start them again. Maybe even try to pick up new ones as well.

Spend some time with yourself in a way that will allow you to fall out of love with that person and fall more in love with yourself because the best kind of love is always self-love.

2. Focus on what you didn’t like about your partner.

It might be helpful when you find yourself struggling to forget about your partner, to remember all of the things that you didn’t like while in a relationship with them.

“Make a list of all the things that annoy you and drive you crazy. All the things you wish you could have changed or improved,” says Ronnie Ann Ryan, a love and cosmic coach. “Then, when you start to feel that longing or miss the person, review your list to remember why you want to create space between you and lessen your feelings of love and connection.”

3. Let yourself feel hurt.

The best thing you can do for yourself is to allow all of the sadness, anger, and hurt to come to the surface. Let yourself feel all of the emotions.

But, don’t hang on to them for too long. Spend some time feeling sad, and don’t be scared to give yourself a deadline for how long you can spend feeling sad.

Once the time is up, you will feel better about continuing to move forward without your partner. Releasing all of that emotion can give you room to experience all of the positive and new experiences that your life has in store for you.

Don’t be afraid to let yourself feel, those emotions are nothing but healthy.

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4. Write your thoughts down.

In any relationship that falls apart, it can be extremely healthy to write down whatever you’re feeling.

Grab a journal, and just let your pen fly across the page. Don’t stop to think about it, just write as the thoughts and feelings come pouring out. You can even address it in a letter to your partner.

Of course you don’t have to send it, it can just be something for you and only you. Writing is therapy all in itself. It can prove to be the thing you need that can further help you fall out of love and move on.

5. Get rid of all the memories.

Keeping anything that reminds you of the person you are trying to move on from means you’re never fully moving on. Throw away the boxes of their things, get rid of anything you have in your possessions that reminds you of memories you’ve shared with your partner.

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This even applies to social media. Unfollow them, and maybe even block them if you think you should. Delete all pictures of them from your social media profile, and even off of your phone. Delete all those old text messages too.

If you want to start fresh, and actually move on, getting rid of all memorabilia will be the best thing for you to do.

6. Spend time with friends and family.

These are the people who will be in your corner, always. Hanging out with your friends and family can be the best distraction so that you’re not sitting alone and thinking about the person you love and are trying to not love anymore.

Going out to do some fun activities can be a good way to start laughing and having fun again. The best remedy after feeling sad is always letting people put a smile back on your face.

7. Realize you’re better off.

You deserve to feel happy in any relationship that you enter into. If that person isn’t making you feel 100%, then they obviously weren’t the person for you. Sometimes things aren’t meant to be, and that’s okay.

It’s good to look at the different lessons you’ve taken from your past relationship, like what you might want in your future relationship, and the traits you will look for in a future partner.

You shouldn’t settle for someone who won’t love you wholeheartedly, and you shouldn’t give your love to someone who doesn’t deserve it.

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Nia Tipton is a writer living in Brooklyn. She covers pop culture, social justice issues, and trending topics. Follow her on Instagram.